To compete with the past – occupation ungrateful and useless. If you are married not the first month, and you are still haunted by the fact that your husband has you – not the first and only woman in life, it is worth analyzing the feelings. Not to change the past of the husband any more. And here it can change the attitude towards him – to you quite.
Instruction
1. Stop any trying to learn as much as possible about the ex-wife of your husband. To what to you know what growth she was as prepared what wine she loved and where preferred to go to have a rest. The theory "forewarned is forearmed" here does not approach. You not in the war. The less you will touch upon a subject about your predecessor, the quicker will forget about it and will cease to be jealous. It is impossible to be jealous of that about whom you know nothing and you do not remember.
2. Think what causes in you jealousy? If the husband does not see former, does not mention it in a talk, does not store its photo, and you are all the same eaten by a "green-eyed monster", it is time to change the attitude towards itself. Most likely, you are too not self-assured. Be engaged in auto-training, share a problem with the person to whom you trust, make a visit to the psychologist. Also do not forget: if your husband lives with you now, so he loves you. Down with complexes!
3. Try to minimize any contacts of your husband with the ex-wife if those are available. The husband has children from first marriage? Invite them to yourself or suggest to meet on the weekend in the neutral territory. It is not obligatory for husband to see children in the house its former at all. She often calls and asks for help? Explain to the husband that it is typical attempts to manipulate him. The adult woman can quite cope with the broken-through battery or faulty brakes. It is worth dialing the phone number of the necessary expert.
4. Think up to yourself a hobby. Next time, when you will sit alone and to wind yourself, imagining terrible scenes of treason of darling from his being, get up, open the recipe-book and begin to prepare something incredibly difficult and tasty. Do not you like to cook? Begin to run in the evenings, sign up for Spanish courses or in dancing school of a flamenco. Perhaps, you are jealous just because you have nothing to borrow the thoughts.