The marriage usually is successful if to approach the choice of the partner in life detailed and seriously. And not to make a mistake, try to learn to the conclusion of the marriage union about the man as much as possible.
Instruction
1. Listen carefully to your man and draw logical conclusions. Men willingly tell about the achievements and victories, less willingly – about shortcomings. But at a certain persistence you for certain will be able to bring darling to straight talk. Naturally, your conversation should not resemble interrogation. You bring to the necessary subject carefully and you do not seek to learn for once everything at once. If your elect very persistently avoids a conversation on a certain subject, it has to guard you. However do not draw hasty conclusions – perhaps the reason of it somewhere deeper, than it seems to you. For example, your man avoids a conversation about small children. You can draw a conclusion that he does not love them. But it can turn out that in the childhood it lost the little brother or the sister, and all children cause in it sad memoirs.
2. Learn about your common ground. The general hobbies and hobbies very effectively bring together people, especially after love subsides, and the relations will become quieter. Except hobbies, you have to have also general values. If you were brought up and matured in different population groups, it will be difficult to find the general values. There is a good criterion for selection of the partner: if in the childhood you read the same books, you for certain will find a common language. To people to different mentality it will become uninteresting to talk over time, they will begin to be irritated constantly, etc. At the same time separately these the woman and the man can be people very good, but absolutely improper for each other.
3. Pay attention not only to what the man says, but also on what he does. Distinguish an idle talk from serious intentions. If your elect only argues on what he wants to achieve, and does nothing, so will be also in your family life. You should or push constantly him, or to be reconciled with the shortage of finance and vital benefits. As for acts, they can also differ. If future spouse often gives you flowers, drives in cafe, etc. - it is only a way to be pleasant to you. But if he looks for option of exchange of the living space on big that you could live together and raise children, tries to obtain more highly paid position that you could not work, understands your religious principles – these acts speak about its gravity, a maturity and strong feelings.
4. Listen to the heart. If it is silent – hardly this man is intended to you. The real feelings – pledge of happy and long family life.