Before trying to construct the serious relations with the lover, it is necessary to think very well: whether really you need it or you were just overflowed by emotions which should be bridled in time.
Instruction
1. It is very simple to blaze with feelings to the lover. Romanticism of secret meetings, the rare appointments accompanied with ardent passion create illusion of the ideal relations. However you should not rush to a whirlpool with the head and to fall in love seriously. Remember that joint life strongly differs from rare appointments. The person can be at all not such what you to yourself thought up him. He will scatter socks, to smoke in a bed and to demand to cook every day new dishes. Think over it before falling in love seriously.
2. If both of you have families, then you should not fall in love with the secret friend especially. Think what blow will be news of your meetings if vicious communication reveals. And it surely happens if you allow emotions to clear up. Change in mood will not remain unnoticed in your family. You in something be punctured, and secret will become obvious. It will cause serious family problems, up to a divorce. Think whether you are ready to change completely own life, life of children and the spouse. To restore marriage, most likely, it will not turn out.
3. If you feel that you fall in love, try to find negative lines at the partner. Observe him during the meetings. Perhaps, he picks a nose or speaks "calls". Now it seems amusing and does not irritate at all. And subsequently, when the passion will pass, will enrage you. Before falling in love, look at the person captiously as if you choose to yourself future husband. It is possible even to describe honestly on a leaf on the one hand negative, and with another - merits. Then you will understand at once whether there is this person of your closer attention.
4. Make an experiment. Tell the lover that you want to leave family, and suggest to open to spouses. You will see reaction. Most likely, the person will just drop out of your sight, and your love will be gone, without having begun.