The decree - a hard time. Such opinion develops at most of mothers who passed all circles of decretive Hell. Hell which we create for ourselves with own hand. This article for women who were not ready to new tests of motherhood.
Every day thousands of women do the most complex, most responsible and bezoplatny work - look after the children. Unfortunately, not all last through the decree can boast of the fact that it was pleasant to them. Why?
Yesterday you were provided to yourself and could leave anywhere and when necessary. Today you are deprived not only it, but also time for itself, for a quiet dream, and is even frequent on any thought of own requirements. It is impossible to look at most of recently given rise women without pity - they completely cease to look after themselves, they do not have enough time and forces for maintenance of purity in the house, and the main thing - is not enough patience for the husband.
If the woman assumes responsibility for the child long before his birth, and after the birth - even less so, then the rare man will understand what occurred before to the kid year is executed. The first year after the birth by right is considered the most difficult - there is a process of adaptation and reconsideration by each member of the role in family.
This year it is important to learn to relax and leave from superresponsibility. This time needs absolutely to be devoted to that to become the keeper of the center, but not a domestic Cerberus. Time of the decree has to become rest time when not only your husband is able to have a rest (because it came from work and was tired), but also you.
Motherhood is a time of blossoming of our femininity, our best natural role. Motherhood was sung by artists of all eras, and we, modern women, turned it into own slave duty. But, as a matter of fact, unless our husbands are guilty of it? The set of the problems connected with irresponsibility and carelessness of our soulmates is provoked by ourselves.
What needs to be done during the decree not to lose the husband (and it to you, believe, still it is useful)
To put the body in order after the delivery so as far as it is possible. The diet is not shown to nursing mothers, but it does not prevent to eat properly. Physical activities not only in the form of wiping of floors, but also sports sense - fitness, dances are obligatory that to you to liking. It is possible to begin from 1.5-2 months after the delivery (in cases of difficult delivery or Cesarean section it is necessary to consult with the doctor), gradually increasing loading. It not only will put your body in order, but also will help to neutralize the saved-up negative and to save from stress consequences.
To look after constantly and methodically appearance - the face, hair, extremities, clothes and a smell which you exhale have to be fresh and pleasant. The more you start yourself, the worse you feel, the it is less at you than forces. Besides, your husband will understand how to you it is difficult only if itself tries to remain with the child for a week - another. Otherwise for him the fact that it is difficult for you - not justification. Statistics of unfaithfulness in marriage indicates that except the child you can have also ""horns"" if you are concentrated only on motherhood.
To allocate daily time only for the husband. Do not create the house a situation with ""the excess person"", do not let to the husband to feel unnecessary and forgotten at all. The child is a fruit of marriage, a love fruit, and not vice versa. You remember the pervopriyena of its emergence. Therefore try to allocate in day some part of time for communication with your husband as with the man and the friend.
To speak about the requirements and to listen strangers. To try to satisfy human wants of the husband (not only those that concern washing and cooking). The kind and attentive relation, care and caress, will help your half to adapt to a new role and to see that full-fledged family - this that family where there are children, but not that where two egoists entertain each other.
Implementing these recommendations you will be able to avoid a set of conflict situations and to keep marriage in order that in several years to think: ""As it is good that I have it!""