During "that" search sometimes it is necessary to meet not suitable men. It seems good, kind, careful, but you do not feel reciprocal romantic feelings. Therefore when he suggests to meet and be together, it is necessary to be very tactful not to offend the guy refusal.
There should not be half tones, do not give false hope. It is better to cut off once firm "no", than to encourage its indistinct "not now". If you did not understand the feelings yet, ask couple of days to think. But do not delay expectation for one or two months. Be tactful. It is not necessary at refusal to paint "why" if in this list only shortcomings of the person. The young man in love will also be so broken by your refusal, it is not necessary to finish it insults.
You speak politely, emphasize that he is very good person, and will surely meet the necessary girl. But you cannot be her because you do not feel reciprocal feelings. You respect and appreciate it as friend, but between you there is no "chemistry". Apologize, tell that to you it is a pity and conciliatory smile.
As a last resort, one may say, that you are in love or meet other guy. If it actually not so, it is possible to ask the acquaintance to play a role of your young man. But having told lies you risk to lose absolutely attention of guys – the message about your couple will disperse among young men. And few guys meet not free girl. Sometimes such methods do not help, and the young man continues to insist and does not accept refusal. In this case it is possible to agree to an appointment, but on it to be at the best not. For example, if it likes your cheerful nature, frown, you are silent, be dramatic. And after the appointment tell that you do not suit one another.
What should not you do?
Do not try to invent false affairs not to offend the guy refusal of an appointment. It can turn out that you will meet on the street, or he otherwise learns about your lie, then to him it will be even more sore. Therefore directly tell that you do not want to go on a date because you have to it no romantic feelings and you do not want to give false hope.
If the guy took offense at refusal
Absolutely not to do without offenses. To be refused on the feelings even if polite, always painfully. But you should not blame yourself, you tried to make refusal softer. It is not necessary to cross through himself and to agree against will to something not to offend the guy. Then you will offend other person – yourself, and it is much more serious.