Quarrels – it is normal, frequent quarrels – here in what a problem. Sooner or later they can lead to a gap. If you constantly swear at darling, it is necessary to change the behavior to keep the relations.
Instruction
1. Resolve an issue without scandal. If you see that the atmosphere is heated, then make every effort for prevention of a quarrel. Do not provoke darling and do not give in on provocation. If one of you stops, another should stop too. Do not lose control over emotions, you behave. The rage, offenses, aggression will only aggravate situation therefore stop swearing to discuss everything quietly.
2. Listen to darling. Usually in quarrels everyone goes on the, without paying attention to the partner. Restrain and give to express to the second half. The ability to listen can prevent a quarrel at the initial stage. Therefore for you the main thing is not to speak, and to listen. If the partner is silent or to you something is unclear, then ask. All is better to find out at once, otherwise misunderstanding will generate new quarrels.
3. Express, but only if you feel that the partner is ready to listen to you and after he finished. You speak quietly, without increasing tone. If you began to talk, it is necessary to tell each other about the discontent to understand and reconcile. Do not hide the feelings when the conversation is under construction on a confidential note, otherwise sooner or later they will be splashed out outside.
4. Look for the cause of a quarrel. Perhaps, disputes arise from scratch (whether it is worth swearing because of a dirty plate), or, on the contrary, it seems to you that the reason for a quarrel is silly whereas the partner meant absolutely another (the irresponsible relation to duties, for example). If the reason serious, then do not look for a solution during the quarrel – talk to darling later.
5. Do not remember last offenses. When you are angry because of what one, it is not necessary to be angry because of everything. If you speak not about a concrete act, and operate with the words "always", "never", "every time", then you only aggravate situation. Do not offend. From rage you tell many offensive words which darling can not forgive then you. Do not cut to the quick and do not hit into a weak point, otherwise you absolutely will quarrel.
6. Accept a part of the fault, without dumping everything on the partner. You remember, two are guilty of a quarrel therefore analyze the behavior, find mistakes and try not to repeat them. You do not seek to be right and to gain a victory in a dispute. Reach compromise, come to reconciliation. Try that the quarrel came to the end on a positive note. And even in such unpleasant situation do not forget to tell: "I love you".