Some researches on psychology prove that the male incorrectness is considered the normal phenomenon, being a natural source of additional energy, novelty, not mindfulness. It is purely physiological factor of human life. The fidelity, in turn, is created within culture, but not given by the nature in any way. For this reason the husbands prefer to get the relations on the party from time to time.
Instruction
1. In certain cases treason from the husband helps the last to stabilize the life thanks to what men get rid of neurosises and, as a result, show more eagerness to storage of a home. But there is also it when unfaithfulness generates sincere experiences, serves as the reason of an internal protest, melancholy and many psychological problems. If you learn that your spouse periodically has extramarital affairs, understand that the affair is not new love. It is not caused by any deep feelings, and is only way of increase in self-respect and a self-assessment.
2. Most often for women the men's treason is considered treachery as a result of which they cease to believe the husbands and in existence of justice around the world. The offended spouses in such cases make a widespread mistake when try to find out the treason reasons, rummage in the past and look for in themselves shortcomings as they blame themselves for everything. Therefore, women have a hatred to the beloved. They treat him as to a krushitel of the family center and happiness. Then there is a depression, threats, damnations, requests to return also other nonsenses. But to these not to achieve a solution. First of all, as psychologists recommend, it is necessary will calm down and it is good to consider everything then to define a possibility of joint life with the apostate.
3. To keep the nerves, you should not panic, allowing thoughts of hopelessness of a situation or, God forbid, suicide. The vent of a depression cannot be given, it is worth beginning to think logically how to live further that will change after the event in case of preservation of the family relations what you will achieve a divorce whether you will be happy when you remain one.
4. It is necessary to understand that not one woman faces adultery. And it does not mean that you concede in something to the mistress. Look at a situation on the other hand. Treachery – an unpleasant thing, but it does not do you worse. Most likely, adultery speaks about some problems in marriage, having understood which, you will be able to improve former cordial and trusting relations.
5. If you learned about treachery of the beloved, but want to keep family and to try to calm itself, understand that despite the adventures which are taking place only for entertainment, your spouse lives with you, does not break off the relation and loves only you. If he was in love with other woman, you definitely could not hold him.
6. Force the man to worry. Let it know that you can escape it. Now you have the right to establish the rules. Show that you are the woman capable to be pleasant also to other men.