Non-reciprocal love – a plot for the most touching songs and a subject of the most bitter sufferings of mankind. And if you are unloved or betrayed you, then it is possible to go in two ways. One: all life to cherish the cardiac wound, finding in it an inspiration source for writing of Gothic verses with rhymes like "love – blood" and "to fly up – to die". Another: to try to heal as soon as possible and more carefully this wound. The second way is more constructive and gives up hopes not only for literary awards, but also for personal happiness.
1. Get rid of everything that reminds you of your former relations with the one whom you want to forget. Many women follow this rule instinctively, throwing out joint photos, returning or regifting the gifts given once favourite. Remove from the computer pictures where you, say, have a rest on the beach or in night club. Get rid of things which serve as peculiar "anchor" for memoirs: bought in common or presented to you by the former partner, found or acquired in common (the apartment and the car – exceptions). Make everything that your memory had no catches, and at you – an occasion to have a little cry and to return mentally to the past, holding in hand, for example, the pebble which is picked up during the joint holiday on the Crimean beach.
2. Stop to feel sorry for yourself and to jam a grief pies and cakes. It will not do good to either your self-assessment, or appearance. Try to get with a great effort it together and to go, say, to the gym. There is a threefold advantage: receive a cheerfulness charge, you will put a figure in order, you will have a good time behind useful and positive occupation, but not self-destructive regrets about the past.
3. Try to communicate more. And exclude at least for a while from your circle of contacts of acquaintances, joint with the former beloved. You do not need the excess reminders and well-wishers who are joyfully telling you that your young man already had a new girl or something like thatsomething like that now.
4. Start to yourself some ritual "on a zabyvaniye". For example, being put to bed, mentally confirm the intention to wake up in the morning more free, quieter and light, than today. Your last relations will become per day farther from you, and time – the great doctor.
5. Try to forgive former, yourself, the and its misses. And the more so, do not take in head to revenge for what you was neglected. Release everything, release the relations, do not tear to yourself heart and do not become attached to the past chains of offenses.
6. Do not become isolated. You leave in friends in clubs, cafe, campaigns, pokatushka by bicycles. Continue to celebrate life. At first it will be difficult, then you will be involved.
7. And, at last, if the melancholy does not release, and it becomes harder and harder to live, address the expert – psychologists or to the psychotherapist. Perhaps, you need the help of the professional.