Between the man and the woman the relations are entered, and after some time there comes crisis. Such turning point is revealed in year, three years and seven years. For safe overcoming crisis of three years of joint life it is necessary to understand himself, the partner and to understand whether it is worth continuing the relations.
Instruction
1. Think what lines, actions do not ustaivat you in the partner. Sort out to what shortcomings you can reconcile and with what – no. Talk to darling. Point to its mistakes. Listen that he will tell you in reply. If your partner does not accept something in you, in your acts, habits, actions, or perhaps and in the attitude towards him, try to change. Only mutual understanding will help to overcome a turning point. Identical people are not. You need to understand each other, to learn to be reconciled with some shortcomings, to be able to be overcome difficulties. It is together much easier to come to the right decision. The main thing to understand whether it is important for both of you to keep these relations.
2. Often crisis comes when something new appears. It can be the child's birth, new work. Such situations quite often provoke the conflicts. Quarrels, scandals … But sometimes it is not an exit. Married couples disperse, cause to each other pain, sufferings. And if all this in vain? Compromise can be reached in any situation. It is enough to endure this crisis period. It is necessary to be able to agree. The husband and the wife – not only lovers. You have to be each other everything – both friends, and partners, and parents, and children.
3. Try to make a surprise to the partner. Make a romantic dinner, put on beautiful linen. The relaxed atmosphere, the twilight, quiet music will dispose you to straight talk. Try not to swear. And owing to evening to dispose the darling to sex. Mutual understanding will help you to come into close contact. It is possible that relations will become cordial again, and the problem will be solved by itself. Therefore be attentive to the partner, you learn to guess his desires.
4. Some couples are helped by parting for a while. When partners remain alone with the thoughts, everyone can think and understand whether there is a thirst for darling as it is possible to solve this problem. If you love each other, respect, accept the partner it what he is, and all this is mutual, then you unite again, continue to live together. But there is a risk that you will become strangers each other. Therefore surely think whether you are sure of the darling so to try to have a rest from each other. But – trust the most important to the partner. However, everything depends on a specific situation, all people are individual. Sometimes most correct – to address the psychologist that is now frequent.