You for a long time (or recently that too not a rarity) you meet the elect and any day you wait for proposal. How it is correct to accept this offer and on what it is worth taking care first of all?
Instruction
1. Carefully consider those reasons for which you are going to marry. It is not calculation, but healthy foresight. Try to estimate prospects of your future joint life. If you want to accept the offer only because for any reasons you feel sorry for future elect, reluctantly, refuse to it. Pity – not the reason for strong marriage.
2. Ask darling about the relations in his family (or observe if acquaintance already took place). If on the basis of a conversation or on observations you noticed that your and its idea of family strongly differ, try to discuss with the elect of a detail of your hypothetical cohabitation. But this discussion should not remind the order immediately, here and now make you the proposal.
3. Begin a conversation from far away, take an interest, for example, in that … what games carried away it in the childhood. If the child grew at lonely, entertained himself, then it can say that your darling got used to be one and even in case of joint life from darlingof woman will feel lonely. If he as equals communicated with peers, then it does not mean yet, as he will perceive you equal to. In that case try to create a situation in which he will show (or will not show) the friendly qualities. There is a lot of techniques, get acquainted with them, using special literature on psychology, however apply them skillfully and then do not admit at all what checks arranged to the future husband.
4. Communicate (whenever possible) to his friends in a situation, non-standard for many women (for example, organize fishing or paintball competitions). So you will be able to estimate both the attitude of friends towards your beloved, and his attitude towards you. Draw conclusions.
5. Draw the closest attention to that as well as what he earns a living by. It is, perhaps, one their main aspects of existence of family. Think whether you agree to leave the work (if he about it asks). If your elect works occasionally, resolve for yourself an issue whether you agree to support him when it does not work.
6. Think whether it will be able (or both of you) to support your future children. If in plans of your darling children do not appear yet, do not insist: over time, if you want children too, it will be possible to agree about everything. Or it is even better - he will hurry you with the child's birth.
7. Acquaint your friend with your parents. According to traditions and etiquette, the groom has to ask permissions to marry the bride's parents. If you not a supporter of such ceremonious ritual, take an interest at darling as his father made the proposal of his mother. Quite possibly, as your future spouse will decide to use "knurled" option.
8. If on all points your elect meets your requirements, safely accept proposal. Or … make it if are sure that it will not refuse.