The divorce on whose to an initiative or fault it took place, is always a stress for participants of process. Especially in such difficult situation children suffer.
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Parents for the child are always an example and a role model. When they get divorced, the child has a stress even if parents were wise people and managed to keep the quiet relations. The main value in human life – family falls.
Often it happens so that each of the former spouses makes new family. And here it is necessary all hardly. How to behave to the new wife of the father with his children? How to children to accept the new wife of the father?
First of all, it is necessary to talk to the child as the adult. It can make both the father, and mother. And mother what relationship with the former spouse would not develop, has to be diplomatic, reserved and tactful. You should not impose the personal offenses and half-words with the spouse on joint children. To anything good it does not lead. On the contrary, it is necessary to explain what sometimes in life so occurs that people cannot be together. That life one, and everyone wants the happiness. What the father did not begin to love less, just to him it is good with this woman, so, for the sake of the father it is necessary to try to reconcile to her and to behave suitably.
If it is necessary to live together
The situation becomes complicated when it is necessary to live together with new family of the father. Here, of course, the behavior of each family member is important, responsibility of the father especially increases. He has to try to improve the friendly relations between the two close people. The father needs to talk to the new wife, to explain that he cannot find all free time for her as it has a son/daughter. The conversation has to take place as well between the father and his child. Anyway, the man should be tactful, to make somewhere concessions not to do harm. If you have to live with the new wife of the father, and separately you can live yet, then behave more tolerantly in relation to them. Of course, each situation is individual and demands separate consideration, but nevertheless try to accept the new wife of the father. Definitely it is not necessary to repair any intrigues, to organize plots against it. To complain excessively to the father of it. You remember, you risk to lose arrangement and trust not only the stepmother, but also the father. If your stepmother the quite good person, wants to make friends with you, tries to please you and your father, then try to calm down nevertheless offense in the soul at the father for the fact that he did not remain with your mother, and try to communicate with it as equals. It at all not treachery of you in relation to your mother. This reasonable relation to current situation.