One of the most widespread complaints of women – men do not help them to keep order in the house, and at times do not even understand, why, actually, this order is necessary. All scatter, do not clean up, from them will not wait for the help. Of course, it is necessary to consider big emotionality of the weaker sex in comparison with strong and the tendency to exaggerations following from here. Nevertheless, the fact remains: really, many men understand the word "order" at all not in that sense in what his women understand.
Instruction
1. The most unsuccessful tactics to which the woman – reproaches can resort, tears, complaints sometimes reaching scandals. Believe even if as a result the man will begin to display the things in places and to help with cleaning of the apartment, his attitude towards you will be changed for the worse. "The hysterical psychopath" is not the strongest expression which will occur to it. And, besides, almost for certain there will be a thought: but whether not to look for other woman who does not do of cleaning of a cult? Hardly you need such result. Therefore remember: any tears and scenes.
2. Refrain also from mandative tone, categoricalness. It is not pleasant to women when so talk to them? Imagine, men are not enraptured with it too. The polite phrase beginning with words: "Darling, could not help you to me …" will make absolutely other action. Especially, if with purely women's art "to flatter": like, to you it will be absolutely easy, you are such skillful.
3. Try to distribute obligations for the house taking into account nature of work and load of each of spouses for each concrete day. For example, if the lunch was made by the wife, the dishes are washed by the husband. And vice versa. Do not forget to be sincerely grateful to the husband for any help, especially if it was rendered without reminders, on a personal initiative. "the kind word and a cat is pleasant"!
4. Understand also that the vast majority of men just because of features of the psychology do not see need for a faultless order. Rare exceptions do not change the general rule. Therefore the husband absolutely sincerely does not understand, than the wife who found out that some thing again not on the place is anxious and dissatisfied. And all unclear confuses men and irritates. Here and reason for family quarrels.
5. Do not try to change the husband, and be limited to a reasonable minimum, remembering that at the correct approach it is always possible to achieve the. If as a result the husband himself begins to put in a basket for dirty linen the things demanding washing and to take out garbage, – consider that you were already strongly lucky. If he besides removes dust the top surfaces where the wife does not reach and to perform still some housework – you got the real treasure.