Each good hostess dreams of an order in the house. However often not all family members are ready to observe purity. In a sink the dirty ware, things everywhere scattered, on a floor traces from dirty footwear lies. Children and teenagers act usually this way. To accustom the child to an order, it is necessary to put a lot of effort. And if educational measures still did not bring result, it is necessary to replace tactics.
Scandals and threats, as a rule, do not help. On the contrary, the teenager as a result of any violence, physical or psychological, becomes aggressive and closed. If the conflict was about to happen, try to act tactfully and softly. The child cannot be humiliated, especially publicly.
Show love for an order on the example
To accustom to move away the teenager the room it is possible only on a personal example. If you seldom pay attention to purity in the house: you put away for later washing of ware, you store dirty clothes, you should not wait for other behavior from the child.
Accustoming the child to an order, it is necessary to pay constantly its attention to how it is pleasant to be in purity when everything shines and smells of freshness. Show respect. If the help is required, do not order, and you ask quiet tone. It is even better to report to the daughter or the son about the forthcoming cleaning in advance. Similar tactics will allow to avoid the next scandal.
Look for a compromise
Usually children are frightened by not the fact of cleaning, but amount of time and forces which will be required to be spent for it. Therefore explain to the child that the disorder in the room can be eliminated step by step. For example, today to spread out the things in places, and tomorrow to make damp cleaning. If it is still difficult for child to keep order in the room, let carries out one type of works. For example, washes for himself plates, makes a bed, puts educational accessories. Further, it will be possible to attract the child to other duties. That your child had a desire to support as it should be the room, guide ideal purity there. Perhaps, the teenager will understand that it is more pleasant to be among accurately placed things, than among a mess, and will begin to tidy up in the territory.
Become closer
To change a situation the informal conversation can help. Tell the child that you feel how you worry about the provision of the current affairs. Report what to you bothered to stumble every time about the things scattered on a floor. Also explain that it is necessary to carry out cleaning not only for himself, but also for the sake of other family members. The good effect can achieve, having hidden things which the teenager often uses. It can be lipstick of the daughter or a favourite undershirt of the son. Painful search will teach to put in the future the things into place. Your teenager will begin to make progress soon. Then you do not stint a praise, but be not overzealous. Flattery to very few people is pleasant. From you it is required to have patience and to wait until your child thinks again and will understand that purity and an order in the room are very important. And this moment surely will come. Your efforts will be rewarded and will return a hundredfold.