The strong family relations are based not only on love and mutual respect, but also on frankness. It is considered that the husband and the wife can have no secrets from each other. Nevertheless, in life anything happens. For example, the husband makes an unseemly act which it is a shame to admit to the wife. Or the spouse has a difficult situation at work about which she does not want to tell darling not to concern him. Second "half", nevertheless, instinctively feels: there is something wrong, begins to worry, worry.
Instruction
1. First of all do not demand the answer in a categorical, categorical form, do not resort to reproaches. And, certainly, refrain from charges: "I because of you am nervous, I imagine the most terrible, and you all the same what you are an egoist". You it only anger the beloved and receive counter reproach: at heart it is already disgusting, and here in own house torment. And business, most likely, will reach a serious quarrel, and you want not such outcome at all.
2. Instead choose an opportunity and talk to the husband. Quietly, politely, using approximately such words: "I am not blind, I see that to you there is something wrong. It frightens me, I worry for our family. We are not foreign people. Please, tell what happened? I promise, I not will begin neither cry, nor to reproach, nor to climb with councils". At such approach, the husband almost for certain will confess in an unseemly act and will ask for the wife of forgiveness.
3. The conversation can be held also in a little more rigid tone. Remind the husband that you, marrying, promised to be each other together, to divide both pleasures, and grieves. Therefore if he persistently hides from you the reason of the concern, his behavior can be regarded as mistrust and disrespect for you. And unless you gave a reason for it? Try to speak politely, but with a distinguishable note of offense.
4. You can act also in a roundabout way, having inquired at his friends. In most cases the female intuition will prompt to you: whether really they know nothing or try to keep the secret entrusted them. Well, and further – a trick. It is necessary to try to inspire in them that you are tormented by uncertainty, you all got exhausted, go crazy from alarm for the beloved husband, and he nothing is stubborn to you tells. Friends for certain will carry out after that educational work, having explained to the husband that he arrives simply cruelly. And recognition will not keep itself waiting long.
5. Whether to forgive an unseemly act of the husband, each wife solves itself, proceeding from many factors. First of all, degree of this unseemliness is how big. But if the person sincerely confessed and promised to draw all necessary conclusions, it is better to show generosity.