It is considered to be that men and women from different planets – "the man from Mars, the woman from Venus". Men do not understand to what all these at all "a women's talk" why to speak about that, as is so clear. Their mentality is focused on feelings. Be not surprised, they really feel far better because they are not inclined to be engaged in self-deception. Our task to find the correct approach and to make so that he heard, but did not pretend if only got rid of it and allowed to look through soccer. Today we will talk what should not be done and how to achieve the necessary result with small losses.
Instruction
1. Hoist a white flag. Your task to show to the opponent that nothing threatens his male vanity. If he suspects that try to manipulate it or, what is even worse, to humiliate, put into place, immediately will begin to defend. At this moment he does not see in you the woman, especially, darling. Now you for it the competitor, the rival trying to take the place in the sun.
2. It is not necessary to become in a men's position. The woman can win only kindness, care, softness. Become such that it was pleasant to partner to go to a meeting. Let for him it will be manifestation of force, but not weakness. Men like to indulge women and all are ready to make for us. In each man there lives a hero – it is important to remember it as the axiom which is not demanding proofs. For him insults are of you equivalent to recognition of own insolvency. Do not do it. Remember children's fairy tales: all feats are made for the sake of great princesses, but the princess has to believe in the hero. Do not turn into strict mummy, the little girl, "druzhban", be a woman. Always you speak only for yourself. He is your guy (and there can be already also a husband), but he is not obliged to share any your belief.
3. You say directly about what you want. Men are visual learners, women – audiala. It is one more axiom which needs to be remembered. You convey information in the most compact form. Let's remember school days. The exact sciences are always given to boys easier, and girls are born humanists. Over the years nothing changes. The brain of your second half is simply not able to digest that flow of information embellished by colourful epithets and comparative turns. You speak accurately and on business, spread out on points.
4. If you want that listened to you and regretted, you do not say: "My so bad chief, he abused me and now to me is so sad". Take a word, the man will not understand what you want from it. Most likely, will begin to look for immediately a solution, and you, having with insult inflated sponges, you will come to a conclusion that do not listen to you. And meanwhile, an essence not that it such bad, and you good or on the contrary, just you did not understand each other. Tell most, only in men's language too. It has to sound approximately so: "It is necessary to me it will be uttered. I was so exhausted at work today, the chief not on business abused. Listen to me, please". And all. The task is set. Now he knows that it is necessary to make that you were happy and happy. As a result, you receive care, he feels like the hero
5. Tears – a delicate topic. It is bad not to cry, to cry at the slightest pretext even worse. If you grab the kerchief on any even if to an insignificant occasion – it already directs at doubts in sincerity. As soon as the man understands that all sufferings - no more than the farce, the hidden manipulation immediately will cease to react to your tears under any circumstances. Therefore you should not resort to the forbidden influence methods. Inefficiently and tiresomely. Moreover, the tear-stained woman looks not too attractively. Remain for it perfection as long as possible.
6. Learn to listen. Quite often it happens that in a rush of the overflowing emotions we interrupt the man and begin to assent or state the point of view on any given question, and are surprised then why he suddenly became silent. The similar way of communication is acceptable only for communication with girlfriends. Not such men: if they began to speak (and mostly they are terrible taciturn persons), then want to finish a thought, to be heard. Do not give to it advice about which do not ask. Let he will be uttered and itself will find a suitable solution. You want to help – lead. Direct, but do not specify. It all the same will arrive as finds necessary.
7. Be a personality. Let you will have the general hobby, but everyone has to have the personal space independent of the partner. No person can be done by the prisoner of the relations because the prisoner always dreams to escape from prison. You have to have personal interests and views. However, if your points on any question dispersed, never, under no circumstances state it publicly. Inform of the reasons when you remain together in a correct form. Humiliations on public (namely so he perceives it) the man will never forgive.
8. One more important point which needs to be remembered: the man never has to be sure internally that you belong to him for hundred percent. Maintain hunting passion and life in the relations. If it is correct to make everything, then at the subconscious level he will not only love, but also to respect and consequently, and to reckon with your opinion even if will not tell you about it openly.