One of the most painful psychological injuries which the relations can put is adultery. At this moment for affected party all falls: belief in love, hopes, joint plans, peace of mind. But you should not forget that it is necessary the one who changed too not simply. Especially, if treason was a fatal flaw. It is incredibly difficult to regain the former trust, but if really you love the person, it is impossible to be given.
Instruction
1. If you are going to stick together the broken bowl of your relations on pieces, at first most truthfully answer the simplest question: "Do you really want to restore the relations or deceive yourself? For some reason all of you changed?". If your decision firm, first of all, at a conversation with the partner do not offend him a new lie. Honestly tell about what occurred. Justifications like "drunk was" are humiliating for your second half and are inappropriate.
2. Surely tell that you regret and you regret for deeds literally from first minute. You remember sincerity. Most likely, from your soulmate questions which will not be absolutely pleasant to you will follow, but you have to answer them honestly. Otherwise you risk to be caught on a lie again, and your relations because of it will become precisely best of all not.
3. The sincerity of the words needs to be proved business therefore immediately break off all relations with that with whom you made an adultery. Any communication, even by phone and, especially, any personal meetings. Such act you will be able to prove to darling the serious intention to finish once and for all similar acts.
4. That similar situations any more never happened in your life, it is necessary to try to understand the reason of treason. What problems or half-words were an incitement in order that you paid attention to other person? The correct step would be to address the good family psychologist. You should not hesitate of the help of such expert. Some married couples mistakenly consider the fact of the address to the psychologist recognition that their marriage did not take place. But for the sake of your love, for the sake of joint happiness with the loved one you should not renounce this opportunity. The family psychologist is, first of all, a solution of your problem, but not its statement.
5. It is necessary to go to the expert together. You both want to save the relations. Your classes will be kind of in three stages. At first you will tell each other about what feelings had to be experienced after treason. Then find out the reasons which led you to it. And only then very complex, laborious collaboration over creation of long and harmonious relationship is necessary.
6. Besides, be ready that you should apologize for treason not once. Most likely, you will need to prove to the soulmate love and fidelity for a long time, however happiness is worth it.