The woman married the divorced man., It seems, everything is good: the reliable person, decent, without addictions, sincerely loves the new wife, and from the material point of view the family has no problems. It would seem, live yes rejoice! But here ill luck: the woman cannot reconcile in any way to the fact that the husband often visits the former family, pays much attention to the first child. She because of it is jealous, takes offense, feels uncertainly. In family quarrels, the conflicts can begin.
Instruction
1. Understand a simple thing: your emotions are clear and natural, but it is not necessary to follow their tastes. Yes, the woman wants to feel favourite and only, she feels discomfort, jealousy if someone gets attention of the partner still. But it is not so much about the ex-wife of your husband how many about his children. And children for any normal person are sacred.
2. Do not reproach the husband at all, do not make rows, scandals. You will achieve it only that he will move away from you. He inevitably will have a thought: "And it, turns out, stale, cruel". Understand, the fact that he is interested in the children, still loves them, helps as far as possible, speaks well for him. You for certain had to hear sad stories as men after the divorce do not even remember the children, do not render to them the slightest help, in every possible way evade from payment of alimony. And you together with girlfriends sincerely were indignant: as it is possible to be such heartless. You do not love ex-wives – your right, but children are not guilty of anything. Your husband absolutely another, he has both a heart, and sense of responsibility. It is necessary to rejoice, but not to reproach.
3. It is quite natural that you are visited from time to time by fears - "But whether it will return to former family?". But think if you press on the husband, to make rows, to put forward ultimatums "Either I, or they!", it can just occur. Instead of reproaches and scandals ask the husband questions of health and affairs of its kids, offer the feasible help if in it there is a need. If children grew up already enough, suggest to invite them to you on a visit. Such approach for certain will please and will touch the husband, will do good to the fortress of your family.
4. As a last resort, if you consider that the husband pays a lot of attention to the former family or helps it too generously, can talk to it on this subject, but is polite, delicate. Avoid categorical, dissatisfied tone. In the beginning surely emphasize the fact that his love and attention for the children is clear, natural and causes respect of you. And then it is possible to pass to the main point: "But, agree, your family now – here, and I need your attention, care too".