The questions connected with trust in the relations become more and more relevant now. Constant suspicions often cause scandals and quarrels. As a result the groundless jealousy destroys feelings, and already created families. When the husband too often does not spend the night at home, is in the doubtful companies, and at phone conversation the foreign female voice is heard, time to ask it about treason comes.
Instruction
1. Before asking the husband a question of treason, for a start it is necessary to adjust itself on a quiet, reserved and constructive conversation. It is necessary for to clear the moments which disturb you and disturb. It is necessary to tell about it to the spouse first of all, then it is possible to pass to heart of the matter. At once it is necessary to prepare for difficult, and, perhaps, even to very difficult dialogue as men do not love similar inquiries. It is necessary to reckon with it, but not to forget that you have the right to know the truth and also need that the atmosphere of trust reigned in the house therefore you ask the husband about honest and straight talk.
2. When the preface and a topic of conversation it is designated, it is possible to ask several general questions of treason. Most likely, you receive the negative and calming answers, very few people voluntarily admit the sins, especially, if they do not have proofs and will not be. Here it is necessary to understand that the truth is known only by him, and anyway you should believe him or not to believe, but to live in such relations very difficult. In other words, the main task is not to achieve opening of all cards, and to arrange the man so that he felt need to be with you the most frank.
3. If the spouse is irritated by questions, try to calm him. Remind that you are his wife, and this question is very important for you. The main thing at this moment to do without excessive reproaches and, especially, without hysterics. If there are concrete facts of treason, state and show them to it. He has to understand that you know about treachery, and, perhaps, it will change its attitude towards you. By the way, statistically, men admit unfaithfulness usually in two cases – or at obvious proofs from the woman, or at own desire to finish the relations.
4. Despite feeling of jealousy which prevents to live the opening of the truth not always promotes strengthening of the relations. Therefore, it is necessary to be ready to any turn. Present that he admits treason. What to do next? After that probably serious crisis in the relations is necessary. Men in such situations are quite passive and seldom seek to solve such problems on an equal basis with women therefore if you do not want to aggravate a situation and they decided to forgive the man to keep family, it is better to hide your guesses from the unfaithful spouse. However, most likely, all truth will lie at you at heart heavy cargo, and eventually you will have a nervous breakdown which will lead to a divorce.