Treason, unfortunately, is not a rarity in the matrimonial relations. Couples endure such unpleasant event differently: someone disperses, some forever have mistrust to the partner, and only the few are capable to endure treason and to move further, having realized the value of the relations. You cannot regain control over situation and prevent treason of the partner, however in your forces reduce the probability of this event.
Instruction
1. Do not force the spouse to correspond to an image of the ideal man which you thought up, perhaps, in the childhood. The invented prince can be dazzling beautiful and brave, he is a doctor of science and the owner of own business, it is capable to lay one hand the hooligan, beats houses of the shelf according to the first requirement and bakes pancakes in the mornings. Here only you married other man with the interests and requirements. Do not show discontent that your man falls short of an ideal – he did not subscribe to it.
2. Unrealized sexual fantasies quite often push spouses to a campaign on the left. And business not so much in what one of partners demands something too perverted, and that both did not get used to talk about sex. But it is difficult to guess that the spouse would be not against to see you in a suit of the nurse or to try binding if he never reported about it to you. Take the first step. Tell about what you would like to test, and suggest the man to describe the desires in reply. High-quality sex which it gives pleasure to both participants will strengthen family.
3. Achieve that the spouse respected you. Treason is an act which offends the partner. And to offend the person for whom you have genuine respect, hard morally. Possibly, the conscience simply will not allow your man to appear in others bed.
4. You say each other that you wait from your relations. If you want to get more supports from the beloved spouse, tell him directly about it. In turn, ask it to sound also the requirements, whether it be friendly participation after the unlucky working day or joint viewing a football match. Not superfluous will be to visit the psychologist together. Sometimes people do not realize some desires, but the lack of their satisfaction can have an adverse effect on family life. The psychologist will be able to help you to understand what is not enough for you.