It seems, the wedding march was won back until recently, the young family only began to become independent, and already came it is time to think of the child. When he is born, the husband automatically becomes a father, and the wife – mother.
At once there is a risk of dissolution of the relations of the man and woman in the relations of the father and mother that leads to serious family crisis. The wife, still quite recently gentle, can turn into the embodiment of the real motherhood, plunging into care of the child, and the husband overflowed with feeling of paternity will vanish the whole day at work, seeking to support family.
There is an opinion that the child the emergence turns life of young spouses into a routine, that is after the birth of the kid the festive life seems already otherworldly. The husband notices that the wife is busy only by the child, and the wife, in turn, sees that she married thoughtless a mattress to which and the family was not necessary. It seems that business approaches a divorce. But you should not hurry so, parental feelings can perfectly get on with feelings matrimonial, even without interfering with each other! What for this purpose needs to be made?
First, organize the life so that, except care of the child, you also had time for staying together. Find the good, reliable person to whom you will be able to trust care of your kid from time to time, and you go to theater, cinema or just walk. The most important is to be couple.
Secondly, it is better to establish in family a certain contract on division of roles concerning the child. For example, to choose the one who will get up at night and to swing the kid. Also follow to specify pastimes: whether both parents will constantly stay at home, or they can visit, let even in turn.
Thirdly, it is worth learning to refuse some hobbies. It is quite possible that it is necessary to cut down somewhere itself in study, in additional work or in communication with friends. It is necessary to try to make so that for you it was felt as something natural, than something necessary that needs to be sacrificed for the sake of the child.
Fourthly, to remain validly spouses, it is necessary to restore the sexual relations.
If you about everything agree and will observe the contract, at you everything by all means will turn out, and family crisis will successfully disappear.