Unfortunately, in joint life not to do without quarrel, from time to time spouses have a discontent in any given occasion. The unpleasant deposit after the quarrel prevents married couple to feel happy in marriage again. It is better to learn to avoid scandals, and the harmony will return to your family.
Instruction
1. Talk quiet tone. Do not interrupt each other during the conversation, you speak and listen in turn. This simple psychological reception consists in your ability to listen to other person. Simultaneous hard words will inevitably lead to misunderstanding and fit of anger. Hardly shouts will stop, you will have an opportunity to have a talk quietly and structurally.
2. Find out what events most often serve as the reason of family scandals. The spouse can become angry if he was late, left something at home, did not manage to make phone call, etc. Small household disorders influence mood of the spouse and, as a result, break harmony in family. Help it if it in your forces. Do everything possible to eliminate the annoying factors, and then the composure of your husband will be restored.
3. If you see that the situation began to get out of hand, go together with the spouse on a visit. At witnesses you will not begin to show family disagreements, and intense emotions in itself will cease over time. On a visit you will manage to calm down and relax. After well spent evening you will not have any more a desire to continue dismantling.
4. Do not offend each other what you would not argue on. To avoid insults and attacks to the opponent – the main rule of conducting a constructive discussion. Rather accidentally or intentionally to offend the interlocutor, and the dispute immediately sharply develops into scandal with all that it implies. If you in a conversation passed to a subject of your relations, all the same place the main emphasis on a problem situation, you do not become personal.
5. Remember that in the heat of a dispute the people are inclined to exaggerate shortcomings of the second half. People with hot, impulsive temper can tell a lot of things to the interlocutor. Do not pay attention to each phrase told in a temper. Your spouse will quickly cool down, persons with such temperament differ in an otkhodchivost. And here if you violently react to each remark which seemed to you unfair, squabbles between you will become a usual thing.
6. Try to go more often on compromises, on it your family keeps. Take steps towards each other, do not forget about reciprocal concessions, and you will move to the new, deeper level of the relations.