Quarrels and scandals are result "collateral" of relationship of people, but more conflict situations are aimed at the development and strengthening of the relations through understanding of aspirations and desires of each other. However under the influence of emotions it is difficult for some people to control the words and acts at the time of the quarrel therefore it is better not to give in on the provocations leading to abuse.
Instruction
1. Do you want to marry him? Then study its habits, interests, "sore points", learn about desires, etc. "To read" the guy as the book, be interested in his opinion on any questions, learn about its character inadvertently at friends, ask an impression about it the relatives, friends. It is better to learn the opinion of the guy on subjects, important for you, in advance further not to provoke scandals.
2. At the moments of tension and misunderstanding be discharged of emotional splashes and begin to recalculate everything around, as in the animated film: the cow is time, the bull is two … It is enough to count 10 objects that the irritation settled and the self-control returned.
3. Happens that the accruing conflict causes confusion, the little shock also does not allow to collect the thoughts. Then just in quiet tone you say to the young man that you will return to the matter, but in 3 days. But you have an opportunity to find arguments in own favor, to understand the point of view of the guy, to find possible mutually advantageous ways for both and to avoid insults and charges.
4. To avoid the conflict, it is necessary to understand opinion and motive of the loved one. Perhaps, proving something, forbidding and demanding, he just protects you and wishes well to you. Then just it is worth revealing slightly before the half and to tell about the aspirations. Letters will help to understand the point of view of each other. Just sit down in the moments of quarrels and write about the feelings, offense, the reasons of misunderstanding and the conflict. Then remove letters, and only in a week discuss their contents.
5. Pay more attention to the spiritual development: read fiction, expand a circle of the interests. Filling up vital "baggage", you will be able to see many things in an adult way, and therefore not to react to many provocations of conflicting party.