I do not know whether men ask a question how to be a good husband, but it seems to me that entering a love match (at least for the first time), they, at least, at first sincerely try to make it. Only not always it turns out. Why? And what to do?
It is required to you
- love
- patience
- mind
- fun
Instruction
1. Sincerely you love the wife. It already half-affairs. If you feel that it is your half, then think and whether you make efforts that she felt happy. Do you work? Great! (still it would not work, thought in this place of the woman) Only do not dissemble - you work for yourself, for the self-realization, and the fact that you a part of the earned money send to the family budget, it, the Lord, any not a feat. It is norm of life, and therefore we will not say here that the good husband brings money to family. Bad bears too. Or he is not a husband at all, and so - a fiction. The good husband not just works and earns money. He does it consciously. He knows what the family lacks it and seeks to spend the earned money for the solution of these problems.
2. From here a conclusion - the good husband not only brings home a pay, is indicative throwing it on a table with words: ""Do not refuse to yourself anything, expensive"". He precisely knows that why and why darling and his children wants it. The bicycle to the son because all boys in the yard laugh when he tries to keep up with them on the three-wheeled? A new dress to the daughter because the best friend sports in a pink satin dress with a bow? The computer because without the Internet the 15-year-old teenager feels as without hands and goes on other end of the city to the friend Vasya? The subscription in the fitness center because your wife wants to keep the body young and healthy? The rejuvenating procedures in beauty shop because her 35 is any more not 18? New car, because this constantly under repair? The new apartment because in old not to force the way? Do you know that it is necessary for your relatives? If you know and you understand that it is not a whim, but need, try to give them it (but not to climb spaces of the Internet at large or on the contrary, from certain, but not especially correct).
3. Do not change. Here it is unexpected, huh? But if you indeed want to become the good husband, then do not look around. Treason is when you give a part of to other woman. Do not lie at least to yourself that it not so. You give it not only a body, you give it the thoughts, the heat, the time, emotions and money. And all this does not lead to strengthening of the matrimonial relations, you understand it. And if your wife loves you, she will feel it. Even if will keep silent. But it will be sore with it. And even if she trusts you completely both at her and in thoughts there is nothing similar, you will know that you are not faithful. And your conscience will haunt you. You will be angry, nervous, keep silent, to be irritated. What here good? And if you the believer, then you have to remember that treason is a sin. Whatever one may do.
4. Undertake a part of its duties. At least sometimes. Meet children from school. Just like that (they are your children). Take out garbage. Without reminder. Stop by at grocery store and from there call it with a question - what to buy? Or ask it to throw off it SMS with the list. Pay bills for the apartment. Generally, anything - even ware not a sin to wash if you see that its mountain, and the wife came from work with full packages, hungry and tired.
5. Take part in education of children. It does not mean that it is necessary to grab a belt and to reprimand loudly. Also it is not necessary and vice versa to fill up children with goodies and to allow to do all that mother usually forbids. I about another - be interested in life of your children, their problems, a circle of contacts and interests. Well and their health. If your kid does not sleep the 5th night in a row because he cuts teeth, release the wife to have a sleep. At least for hour or so. Yes, this shouting wet alien - your son. So not such it and a feat - to stay with it hour or so alone that darling gained strength.
6. Arrange house surprises. You give to the wife flowers. Buy tickets at cinema. Just buy it a beautiful thing - a scarf, a handbag, linen, earrings. It will be pleasant to it. Yes, you will test several awkward minutes in shop. But as you will be rewarded for it! And as shop assistants will envy your wife!