Being going to connect the life with the man who was married earlier and already has children, be ready that they will become a part and your life too. You should not panic and be upset ahead of time. To improve good relations with nonnative children not so difficult. Especially as their father is your beloved.
Do not try to take the place of mother in life of the nonnative child. It has, native mother whatever she was in your eyes. In his heart she will always be the best and only. Do not criticize her in a conversation with the child, try to listen and agree with everything that he about it tells. To you there will be a place in its heart too if you want to become it the true friend.
It is not necessary to fawn and grant all whims and the child's requests. He will understand at once how you can be manipulated, and your life will turn into the infinite nightmare consisting of requirements. Try to discuss all arising problems on family council in the presence of the father. Do not suppress a negative situation, it will only aggravate situation. Openly and quietly you say about what does not suit you.
With the spouse try not to fixate the attention only the friend on the friend in the presence of the child, kind of you wanted it. Plan all actions together, consult and ask opinion of the child. Let to it know that it not superfluous in your life that it has one more senior friend to whom his opinion is important. Try not to ignore the child. Silent "non-interference policy" will wound, forces to think out various versions of the events. Cold indifference is taken by children's mentality very painfully. If the father of the child takes away it only for the weekend and holidays, try to become a part of these short appointments. Act as the organizer of entertainments and joint campaigns. Most often the conflicts take place because you do not want to share the man with his child. In this case you should not divide anything. If you have the child from the previous marriage, it is necessary to bring up the child of the husband just as the. Never let know to the nonnative child that he means to you much less than own. The trust and respect of the child can be won only persistent work and the fair relation.