When darling loses interest in work and self-development, it is worth thinking. Perhaps, the reason is in chronic fatigue, disappointments, a severe stress. Or perhaps it is all about yours with it relationship?
Instruction
1. In life of almost each adult there can come the moment of indifference or disappointment in own activity. If before the guy burned with any purpose and took concrete steps for its realization, then approach of total laziness can be compared to the forced respite. Let it know that once already it turned out to work for it and that there was not only a negative experience. And misses and failures do not happen only at those who do nothing. Perhaps, strong depressive experiences, for example, a serious disease or loss of the loved one became the reason of inaction. In this case the help of the professional psychotherapist is necessary.
2. And what if the guy refuses to work with the words "just there is a wish for nothing"? In this situation analyze not him, and own behavior. It is possible that in your relations social roles were a little displaced. If you one work all night long to support and dress both of you, refuse the help to inform of a heavy bag or to move a dresser, then your assertiveness becomes fault of passivity of the guy. Do not charge with everything own shoulders, distribute duties including financial. For example, someone from you will vacuum a chair today, another will wash dishes, someone will buy products for a week, and someone will pay a part of municipal bills, etc.
3. If you meet not so long ago, pay attention to relationship of the son with mother. Can be it parental love made passive. Of course, parents by definition want to give to children everything that those lived without need. But very often they take away from the child the right most to make decisions. When children grow up, becomes indifferent for them what to choose: white or red, thriller or comedy, sea cruise or snow mountains, work or sofa. If you got such "copy" talk to it directly. Let know that you not mother who has always on call a saucer with a blue border. You need a male shoulder and security, but not weak-willed behavior. Give it a chance: if he loves you, then will improve in the nearest future if is not present – leave this ballast and be engaged in own life.