Parents not always like those with whom their children fall in love. Unfortunately, in such cases pressure from the father and mother sometimes is too strong, and the love comes to an end with bitter parting. However if mother took a dislike to the potential son-in-law, her daughter has chances to prove that he did not deserve such relation.
Instruction
1. Ask the mother, than she did not accept your young man. Do not allow it to interrupt a conversation too quickly, finish a conversation. It especially concerns cases when mother at first says that she does not like the man, and on a question, than, answers that it is unimportant and leaves. Listen carefully, quietly, do not row and do not interrupt. Try to understand the mother, so it will be easier for you to change her opinion.
2. Tell mother about advantages of your young man, about his progress, plans for the future. Quite often parents, caring for happiness of the daughter, first of all worry about whether the spouse will be able to protect her, to become a support in life, to provide family, etc. If mother accuses your elect of weakness, nonsense, laziness, infantilism and so forth, tell it about his awards and achievements, without mentioning those moments when he really behaved in an unseemly way.
3. If your mother does not like appearance of your beloved, try to pay her attention to positive lines of its character, his mind, diligence, love for you. Explain that if it does not walk in a strict suit and does not wear a tie, then it does not characterize it as the asocial personality with low intelligence.
4. Try to teach the beloved to communicate with your mother. In different families there can be different traditions, and what is normal for the young man, can seem awful for your parents. If in your family it is not accepted to visit empty-handed, let the man will bring to the potential mother-in-law a bouquet of its favourite flowers or box of chocolates. Teach him to behave correctly with your mother that she had no claims.
5. Never quarrel and do not even argue with the guy in the presence of parents. Moreover, it is impossible to tell anything about your conflicts. On the contrary, you have to make an impression of the gentle loving couple which, however, is not beyond decencies. The young man has to be tender and precautionary with you. If mother sees how he cares for you, her attitude can be changed to the best.