Saying "Beats - means loves" many women who face manhandling of own husbands remember. However the situation can go too far. And already at the first case of a beating it is necessary to reconsider seriously the relations in family.
Manhandling in family - it is unacceptable. And it is unimportant what was the cause for this purpose. Even treason and treachery are not suitable justification for beating. The man practically in hundred percent cases is stronger than the woman, and, raising against her a hand, he not just seeks to prove the physical superiority. He wants to humiliate it morally, to subordinate violently to the will. Only men weak in spirit who are not sure of themselves act this way. And hardly they will be changed. There is a chance to keep marriage only if beating per se was not. Slap in the face, slap in the face, a strong slap from the man is that it is possible to forgive under certain circumstances. But this situation demands serious analysis.
If the husband beats you, be not afraid to contact police. Close people will not always support, simply without wishing to penetrate into situations. And law enforcement officers are obliged to take measures and to deal with the violator.
If the husband hit you, do not try to find out at once why it occurred and that he intends to do further. In the heat of passion or strong nervousness the man can be rude, turn out, etc. Now practically any word will provoke further scandal. All because the husband if he really loves and appreciates the spouse, after this blow already feels guilty. He does not know what to do in such situation, begins to be nervous more and stronger, can break. Therefore how there was a wish to sort out the relations up to the end, it is better to disperse peacefully. The best that it is possible to make - to leave for a while the apartment or that place where everything happened. Give to the spouse time to realize the fault and to accept what he made. There is enough only one day that the partner calmed down and looked at a situation in a different way.
Do not remain in private with the man if he is aggressive and is under the influence of alcohol. If you see that scandal is about to happen, it is better to leave and return when blessed becomes more adequate.
After this time it is possible to try to talk to the husband seriously. Ask to listen to you without interrupting. Firmly tell it that you not tolerate beatings. And that are ready to go to a meeting and to reconcile this time only if it is the first and the last. Ask the man to pledge the word. If the man loves - he will beg about forgiveness and will make everything that is asked by the wife. If is not present - will begin to justify itself, will try to make guilty the spouse, will begin to say that she provoked it. In this case the woman needs to make the right decision. If the man behaves thus, most likely, he also will raise further a hand against the wife. If you are not ready to suffer, then it is better to leave at once, after the first case. otherwise the man can fly into a passion, and will sometime put serious mutilations. There is a lot of such cases when women reconcile to manhandling, and then are hospitalized. House tyranny should not become the norm. At first the husband beats the wife, then children. He cripples mentality to the family, without thinking of the behavior at all. And it is impossible to leave it unpunished. If a beating became the rule - a talk will not help. It is necessary to fight against an aggressor by means of police.