Women perceive parting with darling as the big tragedy, especially if the relations were long. With leaving of the man the habitual world falls, everything fades around and plunges into a gloom, the destiny is unfair, and life is over. Actually everything is not so terrible, it is only necessary to get out of this state and to begin new life.
Instruction
1. The main thing, do not try to suppress the sufferings – they need to be sobbed out therefore cry so much how many there is a wish. The more to constrain pain, the longer it will proceed.
2. Remember all good that was between you and the beloved. The relations ended, but they brought you happiness and joy therefore consider them as the life experience from which you learned a certain lesson.
3. Do not try to establish in yourself the gap reason: most likely, your excess 3 kilograms or a wrinkle on a nose bridge at anything. So it happens when love and passion pass, and more strong feeling on their place does not arise.
4. Think not only of what you lost, but also that was got with leaving of the man. You had more time for yourself, communication with friends, own hobbies, at last, on new meetings. You do not sit alone, be in the companies more, meet new people. Plan the time so that it is as little as possible to remain of one.
5. Whenever possible avoid meetings with the man, they can bring excess sufferings. You do not call and do not write him, and, above all – do not try to return him. If leaving of your darling – a temporary phenomenon, then it returns itself, but if you are not in its plans for life, you will be able to do nothing, will only waste time and the person. Let him go in peace and start life afresh.
6. Female magazines and telecasts in such cases are advised to change image, to do new hair, to pick up an interesting make-up, to update clothes, to start doing fitness, etc. These councils are good, but provided that listed you will do everything only for yourself, but not to try to return the man.
7. For that time which will be required to you for return to normal life remove from eyes down with objects which remind of darling: photos, gifts, cards, etc. Of course, it is possible to throw out all this, but only if then you do not regret about it.
8. Plunge into work, think up to yourself new interesting occupation, for example, learn Italian. Make to yourself the list of affairs for a year: to read collected works of Dostoyevsky, to learn to play the guitar, to prepare all dishes from the recipe-book, to watch all movies by Spielberg – everything depends on your imagination.
9. You think positively: the beloved did not throw you, he made room for the person who will present you true love and happiness. Take the formula offered by the psychologist V. Levi as the motto: "With you it is good, without you it is not bad" or "With you it is good, and without you it is even better!"