Often it is difficult to parents to recognize that their children grew up for a long time. They are not ready to release the child in adulthood at all. To preserve the peace and rest in family, look at your relations from outside and try to follow certain rules.
Instruction
1. If you are strongly irritated by councils of the senior generation, try to let delicately and tenderly know to dear people that you grew up for a long time, you will solve the problems independently now and to live the own way. But it does not mean at all that you will begin to appreciate less them and to love.
2. If you have to live in the territory of the parents or under the same roof with the husband's parents, try to follow the rules existing in the house to accept tenor of life of owners. Actually it is interesting to live big family if to be more benevolent and show flexibility.
3. In any family it is difficult to do without the conflicts, but if you not the disputing party, try not to take anybody's part. Having accepted a position of mother or husband, you only aggravate hostility between people dear to you. It will be much better if, having chosen a successful moment, you try to relieve the intense tension some ridiculous phrase, you will tell a joke or an amusing case. Never tell that one party speaks about another. For example, if mother complains of your spouse, and he dislikes the mother-in-law. In such situation you will get all negative. Suggest the relatives to arrive as adults better – to state all mutual claims each other in eyes.
4. If under the same roof it is impossible to get on with parents, without deliberating look for options of separate accommodation. The rule "the farther, the more natively" sometimes helps to avoid the conflicts and to keep the kind relations. Not to provoke excessive intervention of the senior generation in the family, try to connect parents to the solution of your problems only when you are absolutely sure that they will make it delicately, without interfering in your private life.
5. Guardianship of parents, their aspiration to control life of adult children – quite widespread phenomenon. Try to understand that the son or the daughter for mother will always remain children: and in 5 years, and in 45. In spite of the fact that sometimes it also irritates you, try to be more tolerant. Parents are still alive, you still though can sometimes feel the child, and serious adults lack it so often.