Now speak about equality of gender and duties in the relations much. All around go on about strong women and their progress. Only for some reason in private life at these strong women continuous failures.
To choose for itself a role of the sponsoring mummy very attractively. It is not necessary to explain to the husband the acts, everything can be solved and not to consult on him. In attempt to be more main in family the woman inevitably slides in the relations ""mother son"". These relations are pernicious for healthy family, here everyone lost the role because the man cannot be the husband of ""mummy"", he can become the dependent and weak-willed sonny. And then we are surprised where that responsible, attentive and courageous guy whom you married got to.
There are only several simple, but obligatory rules which observance will save romanticism of your relations and will help to construct happy family life.
You already adult
You can control the behavior, the feelings, emotions and acts. In a difficult situation it is very simple to take offense or abuse the husband as the teacher. However it is worth remembering that both of you are adults, issues it is necessary to resolve, pronounce situations, otherwise they will turn into problems. The relations of spouses are constructed as partner.
Do not carp
Mummy ""molds"" the child. She teaches him how to live, drives in circles and sections that it gained useful skills, corrects errors, reminds that it is necessary to put on a scarf. Do you feel the need to conduct so? Give birth to the child and give him your care. And here save the husband from constant hints and ukazyvaniye. And especially from grumble that he made not as it was necessary for you. Otherwise it will turn out that your needs it is more important than your feelings. Protect each other. Remind only in neutral tone, for example, leave notes on the fridge.
Do not put on as mummy
You will throw out an old comfortable shapeless dressing gown, forget about baggy t-shirts. Near you that man for whom you have to be sexy and desired. At all the make-up and strict hairstyles is not necessary. Men love easy negligence and a rastrepannost.
Divide responsibility
Mother preserves the son and resolves difficult questions. Because near it the child. Near you the adult man. Be not afraid to delegate to him responsible business or to ask to change itself. Marriage is team game, train the partner, give it difficult tasks, then it will give more pleasures to both of you. If interests you how to be to the husband a wife, but not mother, allow it to be not the sonny, but the responsible man.
Consider opinion of the husband
The opinion of mother is always more powerful, than opinion of the son, she has an experience, she has a status. And you are equal in family. Each spouse contributes the share in a moneybox of family values. And your desires can differ. Yes, for mother the last word, but you should not appropriate this right in family, it can badly do will end. You learn to concede and go on compromises.
Do not choose to it friends
Not always mothers manage it even. Of course, you can express the opinion, but solve provide to it. Otherwise, it will just meet them unknown to you. Just there will be ""important issues at work"". Let better you know where it and with whom it.