To become the necessary people, it is necessary to learn to understand them. In their requirements, desires to foresee their behavior, to understand their strong and weaknesses, to find the most correct approaches and as a result to try to obtain from them what, eventually, is necessary for you.
Instruction
1. Before coming into contact with the person, it is necessary that you were ready to it. If you are unsociable, alerted and mistrustful, then will not be able to create a comfortable environment around yourself in which people will want to be. For creation of comfort it is only necessary to be trained in creation of an own internal spirit. Observe for whom other people most often reach? To those who radiate light and heat. Present that at you the small small lamp was lit inside. You will see how even strangers will feel that they want to communicate with you that with you is interesting and safe. It will already remove caution between you.
2. However, opening the inner world and inviting to communication, you learn to protect it that your openness and goodwill did not cause in others desire to use you. Internal light will not only attract people, but also will allow you to be always in good mood and to keep the clear head, so, will help to put communication with other people on the right track.
3. Let your inner world will be in harmony with your acts. It is very difficult to deceive people and if you have an uncoordinated behavior, they will not be able just to trust you. Therefore before convincing someone of correctness of the thoughts and actions. Convince at first yourself. If you sincerely speak about what you are convinced of, you will begin to take leader positions, and people will follow you because it is necessary for them that such people directed them.
4. Understand position of other person. Look on a situation at it with eyes. The people owning empathy are able to get used to a condition of other person, without effort come into deep contact with it. Understanding feelings and experiences of other person, you will create the unique atmosphere of mutual understanding which so sometimes is not enough.
5. Learn to listen to other people. And not to pretend that you listen, and it is valid with interest to listen.
6. Become that person on whom it is possible to rely. All prefer to deal only with reliable people. The reliable person is that, offering some business, states a situation accurately, talks politely, does not tell anything that can humiliate or touch. He does not interrupt and attentively listens to the interlocutors and accepts their such what they are.
7. When you develop in yourself such qualities, each person who knows you will want to communicate with you because you will become for him the necessary person.