Sooner or later each person faces loss of relatives. Many people cease to be interested in daily occurrence events, plunge into memoirs and live only the experiences. How the person will endure the grief, will affect all his further life.
Instruction
1. Give yourself time for having a good cry. Take several days at own expense at work, show the door the relatives who came to express you condolences and begin to sob. You shout, beat with fists about walls, bite a pillow, you can even break couple of plates. After similar release of emotions it will become easier for you.
2. Remember that tomorrow you will feel a little better, than today. Over time pain will recede, will become dull. Now it seems to you that it is impossible, but you have to understand what so all the same will be, and time cures all, you need to wait only.
3. After one or two weeks begin to join in life again. At this time the motivation to active actions still does not appear therefore you should get it together and to force to go to study or work, to meet relatives. If you wanted to be engaged in something long ago, but all put away for later, it is a high time to carry out conceived at last: acquire the rights, enter the MA course, do extreme sport, get a dog. It will help you to distract with experiences.
4. After the death of close many people the feeling of innuendo torments – they did not manage to tell how the dead was dear to them. If these feelings are familiar to you, begin to write the letter. Write down everything that you would like to tell the person who abandoned you. If it seems to you that you were thrown, and you are angry with the dead – do not hesitate of this feeling, state everything that you think about it on the sheet of paper.
5. If you are people the believer, surely order a memorial service for the dead. And from now on, when to you it will become sad again, you come to church to put for him a candle.
6. The grief can be endured within two years, having turned into gentle melancholy subsequently, but finally without having abandoned you. If it seems to you that you got stuck in this state and you cannot cope with loss independently, surely address the psychologist.