The conflict in the relations between the mother-in-law and the son-in-law – quite widespread phenomenon. Most of young couples has this problem. Most difficultly it is necessary the woman who appears between two fires: between the mother and the beloved husband.
Modern mothers-in-law and mothers-in-law consider that their matured children are still unreasonable in vital questions, and they by all means need the parental help. Here careful mummies also help the daughters to understand family life that involves an array of problems. The mother-in-law for the son-in-law – the stranger. The man has own mother, and attempts of foreign woman to get into his private life provoke irritation. The husband gives the moods to the spouse who is forced to look for compromises in this situation.
How to reconcile mother and the husband
Once and for all to stop mutual claims of mother and husband, it is necessary to seat them at a negotiating table. The woman has to be present at this conversation too. Specialists in questions of the family relations recommend to invite someone foreign that the showdown was not beyond reasonable to a conversation. Besides, the uninterested person can express the opinion on current situation that will help mother and the husband to look at the conflicts other eyes. Each party of the conflict (mother, the daughter and the husband) have to state all that is not pleasant to them. If there is desire to improve the relations, claims stated aloud, considerably will improve a situation. At a good deal the husband and mother will reach compromise which will suit all. The woman who appeared between the devil and the deep sea has to refuse from the position to reconcile in any ways close people. After all, mother and the husband – not small children, but adult and conscious people who have to understand all absurdity of their offenses and reproaches.
What to do if hatred of mother and husband is stronger than common sense
When about truce and the speech cannot be, to work it is necessary cardinally. The family has to replace the residence to appear far from mother. The love at distance only gets stronger, and all offenses are quickly forgotten, mother and the husband can even make friends if they live in the distance from each other and to see only on holidays. However mother does not need to be forgotten, of course. The daughter has to in all ways to pay to mother attention. Let there will be short phone calls, but every day. It is possible to teach mother of computer literacy and to communicate with it on the Internet. Mother – the dearest person for the daughter, but it does not mean that she has the right to break family life of the child. The daughter has to softly, but exactingly designate spheres of the life in which participation of mother is allowed. It will be difficult to inform of it mother. But only it is so possible to keep good relations between close people.