The teenage age is a difficult period when the child changes not only externally, but also psychologically. He studies and tries to be the adult, and it is important to parents to understand this moment in time and to agree with the fact that together with the teenager have to change and they are.
Create the atmosphere of acceptance and support
The teenager has to feel support from family, it is important that he understood that it is loved in family and accept it what it is, with all his problems and mistakes. The conviction will help to avoid full alienation of the teenager from parents when he becomes reserved, or begins to look for the solution of the problems in drugs, alcohol, or will get under negative impact of the company.
Unite with the child against its difficulties, try to understand his interests, find time for communication with the teenager. He has to see in you the understanding senior friends, but not outsiders or enemies.
Trust
Line of teenage age – doubt, revaluation of values. Not to lose contact with the teenager, the most important is to create the atmosphere of trust, to show that you can be trusted and you can be not only the strict parent, but also the understanding senior friend who is ready to share the experience, prompt a solution, and the main thing - is able to keep secrets.
It is important that the teenager hurried to share intimate experiences with you. The child should not be afraid to be mistaken or tell you the truth whatever it was.
So you will be able to save it from possible mistakes in time, having prompted right council. It is impossible to deride intimate experiences at all, or for example, to abuse the teenager for "school love". It is impossible to discuss what was told to you by the teenager, with other relatives, acquaintances – important to appreciate and respect trust to you.
Respect
The teenager tries on on himself a role of the adult. It is important to support him in it, showing respect including to his opinion which more often "".
Always try to assess positively the child even if it seems to you that he in something is incompetent. Remarks should not sound as charges. Do not criticize and do not deride its interests which can seem to you unclear – hobby for rock music, clothes style, etc.
Showing that you respect his point of view, encourage and you teach the teenager to take the responsibility, to make independent decisions. Only respecting the teenager, he can impart respect for seniors.
Define rules and priorities
Everything told above does not speak about "full cancellation of restrictions". The teenager has to understand not only the rights, but also duties, as in "adult" life. Discuss with him rules of conduct, a circle of household chores, he has to understand priorities and rules of conduct accurately. At the same time, try also to conform to the established rules. Finally, even actively denying it, the teenager in many respects continues to copy and reproduce an example of parents.