If you learned about marital infidelity of own wife recently, for certain now are in perplexity. You do not know what now to do how to treat her treachery and how further to live, now you lost to it all trust …
Instruction
1. Try to react to all event with advantage. Do not fall before scandals, charges and statements for "senselessly lost past". Yes, you love the spouse and do not allow even a thought of treason, and it arrived in relation to you foully – consciously and without any pity. But the fact remains, she overslept with another. Kind of you did not treat it, do not allow it to humiliate you even more. Quietly let her know that you know all truth about its adventures. On assurances "all this turned out accidentally", "I did not realize that I do" do not pay attention. Time she at least tried to suppress the treason fact from you, means knew what she goes on, and perfectly understood everything – and now just tries to find though some justification.
2. Do not try to find out about as much as possible information about her lover. Why to you it? Easier from the fact that you will know its phone number cars, the place of residence and the address of work, all the same will not become you. And if you try to call it or to look for with it meetings in any possible way, he will tell about it to your wife – and they together will laugh at you. Therefore does not matter who tempted your wife – is guilty not only the lover, but also she.
3. It is necessary to decide what to you to do next. Understanding of the future in a similar situation – very serious step. Whether you are ready to be reconciled with treason of darling? Will you be able to live with the spouse under the same roof how earlier? If is not present – you should not continue the senseless relations. If you are ready to close eyes to its "oversights" for the sake of love, children or still something – know even if treason will not repeat, the mutual respect will be very difficult to regain the trust and. To return love to family and to manage to forgive, it is necessary to visit the psychologist or the psychotherapist.