Very often the interests of the person and his vital purposes are contrary to the interests of other people therefore there are conflicts. If before you the unfamiliar person, it usually does not become a problem. And how to be when the intense relations arise between those who are connected by friendship? It is possible to choose such line of conduct which will help to avoid the conflicts with friends.
Instruction
1. In any situation keep friendliness. Remember that general that unites you with friends. At the same time it does not make sense to fawn as friendship always assumes equality in the relations. Just keep in communication a positive spirit which, undoubtedly, will be transferred to partners in communication.
2. In critical situations of communication keep calm. If your relations were saddened by any unpleasant event, it is not necessary to raise the voice, to shout or swing hands. Excessively emotional reaction will not allow to understand quietly in the circumstances and to find a solution which will suit both parties. Be quiet and sustained even if your friend shows emotionality.
3. Try to avoid in communication of those subjects concerning which you with friends have disagreements. Friendship not always assumes unanimity of views on all questions. You can look at literature, policy or religion differently. But it should not become a reason for a quarrel. The friendly relations have to stand above personal addictions. If among the friends you induce to share the opinion on controversial issues, try to evade from a talk on ticklish subjects.
4. If your friend differs in irascibility and the increased conflictness, do not spend time for that to change it. Having tried to change other person who most often already developed as the personality, you will only give to him the next reason for the conflict. Learn to accept the friend it what he is. Treat its difficult character with tolerance and a share of condescension.
5. In communication with friends be a good listener. Misunderstanding becomes very frequent the cause of conflict. Whether happened so that you listen to other person, but do not hear at all what he speaks to you about? Such relation very often causes irritation in the partner in communication and leads to emergence of the conflict. Psychologists consider that the one who is able to listen just attentively to other person, without interrupting him, can promote very quickly on a ladder of vital success and to become the center of general attention.