Often women blame themselves that their husband is aggressive and dares to hit the spouse. Both old prejudices, and fear are the reasons of such relation of the wife to a problem to remain one, and education. But it is impossible to allow manhandling in family, it is necessary to fight against it.
Instruction
1. Do not hope that the husband will improve. If you obediently take down aggression in the address, the man will pour out more often the negative on you. Stop looking for justifications for the spouse, no troubles at work can excuse manhandling.
2. Do not think that aggression is just property of character of your spouse. The person can be quick-tempered, but, knowing this line, will pour out the expression in creativity or will just swear with the mythical offender. If instead he spitefully shouts at the wife, this situation needs to be corrected.
3. Talk to the husband when he is in normal mood. Explain that you will not be able to be afraid all life of his bad mood. Suggest to descend to the psychologist. The expert will analyze specifically your case and will make to you efficient recommendations.
4. Often aggression at the man is replaced by the period of repentance and shrill tenderness when he tremblingly looks after you and brings coffee in bed. But this stage comes to an end soon, and the spouse begins "to tear and throw again". The stronger sex not less weak is subject to violence of hormones. Notice recurrence of its metamorphoses and send its energy to more useful and pleasant course – sex.
5. Having understood on some signs that next "storm" approaches, meet him not in a dressing gown in kitchen, and in erotic linen in the bedroom. Each person is individual, and you, of course, know better what in your intimate relations is pleasant to the husband most of all. Do this and many other things, but do not forget that sex has to bring pleasure to both spouses. Usually after such treatment of aggression the man becomes absolutely another, more gentle and tender.
6. Very well help not to allow the conflicts in family everyday confidential communication of spouses. If you long talk every evening at supper and then, having a rest in front of the TV, the man will get used to share with all of you the problems, knowing that will always listen to him and will support. Surely penetrate into a conversation essence, analyze heard, give a practical advice and next day be interested in succession of events.
7. The husband will know that, having come home from work, he will receive a fair dose of heat and love, reasonable words and sympathy. He will already have senselessly no need to swing fists, without receiving from it any advantage.
8. But such way will demand much more time for that you noticed result if you missed the moment when the spouse began to vent the rage on you. It is difficult to fight also against aggression of alcoholics and addicts. These people need to be cured at first, and then to build up the sincere relationship.
9. If you are afraid for the health and are afraid that the husband will not apprehend kind words and admonitions, prepare a small bag with all necessary (documents, money, personal belongings) and hide it near a door. When there comes the critical moment, be enough it and run away. It is possible to agree with the girlfriend or relatives that they granted you a shelter in advance.
10. In a difficult case ask council, having called the crisis center of the help to women. At phones experts (psychologists, doctors, lawyers) who precisely know what to do in any given situation are on duty.