Wise people advise that if the person cannot change a circumstance, it should change the attitude towards them. In case it is about shortcomings of your partner, then probably, they not really serious, time their existence did not influence your decision to connect itself by close relations with this person. If you want to make it almost ideal and to bring up in own way, it is necessary to work very carefully, accurately and, the most important, gradually.
Instruction
1. Never use for education of the partner methods and methods which can cause only bewilderment or desire to do to you to spite. Big mistake. which is made by many girls, there is a refusal of sex. Intimate relations never have to be a reason for manipulations if you do not want that your pupil left to other teacher. Silly also silence – you not in kindergarten looks to pout. The adult relations assume also adult ways of resolution of conflicts.
2. When you do not like any lines and habits of your partner, try to talk quietly to him and to explain what moments and why, cause your rejection. Consider that different people can treat the same phenomenon differently, and in many respects it is caused by the traditions and habits put in the childhood, in that family where your partner was brought up. For this reason the conversation should not be under construction as charge of the wrong education and it is necessary to conduct it very tactfully.
3. If it really essentially, ask the partner to change behavior, but be not categorical. Suddenly to reconsider and reject habits not to turn out at anybody. When your darling understands that it is not a whim and not a whim of your bad temper or imagination, he will try to correct the behavior if to it you are not indifferent and your relations. But you have to be ready to that, as it, in turn can ask you to correct something and to correct in the behavior. It has to be perceived by you as norm and not to be a reason for offenses if you plan to be together further.
4. Remember that for educational measures the love and desire to preserve your feelings, but not requirements to adapt to someone has to be incentive motive. Giving as an example of husbands of girlfriends or heroes of series, you risk to hear a wish to go to them from your partner if he does not suit you.
5. People form couples if to them comfortably with each other not only in a bed, but also in life. Try behind the desire to re-educate the person and to make it ideal, to do not pass the moment when such communication becomes in burden to both him and you. Accept each other and you love such as is, and joint life will make corrections both to yours, and to his education if you listen and hear each other.