For the correct development the child needs two important things. On the one hand, in care and love. On the other hand, in discipline and understanding of a clear boundary of legal. Only mother and the father can give these skills to the kid. In incomplete families in which the child has no father the responsibility for the solution of this task completely falls on the woman. Especially hardly it is necessary mothers of boys. To bring up the son without father, the woman most needs to behave correctly.
Instruction
1. To give to the kid all best: tasty and healthy food, beautiful clothes, interesting toys, the women raising the children without husband in time, free from the main work, look for options of additional earnings. Naturally, because of such constant load to devote much time to the son, to walk with him and it is impossible to arrange joint entertainments simply. As a result the child remains alone with the thoughts, feelings and emotions. It is impossible to allow it. Try to find, despite all the affairs, to the to the baby at most for time. You speak to the son about the love for it more often, be interested in his affairs.
2. Very often mother who brings up the son one has a desire to indulge the kid and to allow it a little more, than it is necessary. Thus the woman seeks to compensate absence of the father in the boy's life. As a result of such behavior of mother the child can turn into the real little tyrant with accurate belief of the fact that everything is permitted to it. Therefore, despite all the love and pity for the son, establish for it strict rules which have to surely them be observed.
3. The boy, especially that which grows without father needs a men's image. Therefore surely organize communication of the son with the grandfather, the uncle, your friend or the neighbor. In general, it is desirable that in an environment of the boy there were as much as possible men at whom he will be able to observe such male qualities as responsibility, respect for the woman, force, empathy. If any of the famous people is an idol for your kid, by all means support his authority, sharing the enthusiastic emotions related to the famous personality with the son.
4. Never you tell in the presence of the son anything bad about his father. The father is a part of the boy, and according to your unflattering comments on the ex-husband, his bad part. Such conclusion of the kid can lead to problems with self-identification and development of some personal complexes.
5. And, above all, understand and accept the fact that your son will grow up soon. Do not forbid it to get new experience, do not protect from mistakes. Grant to the boy option and surely listen to his opinion even if it is wrong.