In life practically of any person there are situations when he feels uncomfortably, uncertainly, uneasily. A reason for such state can become anything. Failures at work or in private life, loss of the friend or native person, etc. And it is good if people who will support are near and will calm. But at the same time many of them can have a question: "And how it is better to calm the loved one? How to help him?"
Instruction
1. Find out the concern reason. Maybe the person just worries because of the forthcoming examinations, an interview or an important meeting, and, perhaps, the reason more serious (the death of the native person, a divorce, etc.). Ask him very carefully and unostentatiously. All people different. One person will at once lay out to you the reason of the bad mood, and another it will be necessary to try get to talking. Ask questions accurately not to embarrass also themselves, and the close.
2. Attentively listen to the person. Let he will speak what occurs in his life that he feels, and then can ask him questions if such at you appeared. Perhaps, the person will repeat in the story, to say enough confusedly, but it is not necessary to interrupt it in these cases. And it is so difficult for it to collect the thoughts therefore just you sit and listen carefully. Sometimes it is enough to help the person to find composure and tranquility.
3. Console. Tell those words for which wait from you at this moment. And to understand that from you wish to hear, the story by the person about the problem and also your knowledge of its character, temperament will help. Can do it will be the warm words of support and a consolation, or perhaps on the contrary, it is necessary to stir up the person, and for this purpose your rather sharp statements and actions in the best way will approach.
4. Many people, trying to calm the loved one, begin to compare his problems with problems of others. You should not do it. At the time of frustration of people it is concentrated on itself, on the inner world and it interests a little that occurs at other people.
5. Do not try to amuse, entertain close at this moment. He, perhaps, and itself would like to make it, but his composure is broken. Let at first people to calm down a little, will recover, and further, perhaps, and it is worth trying to distract it from sad thoughts.
6. You should not claim also that there are no reasons for concern. It can be apprehended as inattention and misunderstanding of you. As a result he can take offense at you.
7. Tell the person that you always support him that you will not throw at a difficult moment. Offer the help in a solution. Understanding of that fact that it not one, will help to feel more quietly and more surely.
8. During the conversation use make-shifts for calm of the loved one. Pour to it the calming herbal tea, or can even it is worth suggesting to accept sedative (valerian, a motherwort, etc.).