To refuse often an appointment happens not easy. Especially if the young man to you, in principle, is nice, and you do not wish to offend him. It is necessary to present such news most politely and correctly.
Instruction
1. "It is polite and correct" does not mean "uncertainly". If you be rumpled and promise "can be sometime later", the young man can decide that you bid up to yourself or want that you were pougovarivat, and with the doubled heat to undertake courtings. Canceling an appointment, let know that this your final decision. It is not necessary to give false hope to the unfortunate gentleman.
2. Certainly, you can think up for refusal a good reason like the sick grandmother or suddenly arrived relatives. However in such way there are nuances. First, be convinced that you will not be caught on a lie. If you told the young man that you will go to hospital to visit the beloved aunt, and in an hour will face it in cafe, there will be extremely inconvenient situation. Also you should not say that you broke the car or you were unwell therefore you cannot come. It is quite probable that the guy will rush off to you to the aid.
3. If you decided to refuse an appointment, but wish to keep the friendly relations with the young man, tell it the truth. Do not forget to mention that he is a nice, interesting and good interlocutor, but you will not order to feelings. Ability to leave so that the former partner at the same time was to you also is grateful - it is art therefore it is necessary to do everything accurately, monitoring reaction of your vis-a-vis.
4. If you want to cancel an appointment and any more never hope in life to see the ill-fated young man, use the imagination. For example, tell that from colony your elder brother who jealously watches moral shape of the little sister returned. Most likely, the unlucky boyfriend will disappear from your horizon.
5. Do you like the man who invited you to an appointment, but it is impossible to meet at you on the planned date in any way? Just apologize and offer other day. So the young man will understand that he you its not "dynamite", and will be heartily welcomed with you when it is convenient to you.