Psychologists say that to them more and more people handle a problem of rejection of. It is quite natural when the person is engaged in introspection and is compared to people around. However when the self-assessment is strongly underestimated, there is hatred to itself which does not allow to lead a normal life. If the thought constantly arises in your head: "I hate myself", it is time to take measures.
How to cease to hate itself?
- Often people have this unpleasant feeling because of some bad act. If something is possible (and it is necessary) to change, then write the plan for correction of a situation, and start its realization. If it is impossible to change anything, just tell yourself: "Yes, I made a silly act, but with it anything it is impossible to make, continue to accuse himself is useless therefore I forgive myself for it and I continue to live further". Of course, from the first works not always therefore repeat such phrase every day, especially, when hatred becomes strong.
- Some do not know how to call a situation when you hate yourself. Actually this banal excessive self-criticism, quite often the person is engaged in it because of discrepancy with the standard standards of beauty, behavior or a way of life. It is necessary to learn to accept itself it what you are, or to adjust external data if it is possible. Make the list of the positive characteristics, both external, and internal, constantly re-read to remember the advantages.
- Desire to do everything is ideal or perfectionism, arises at many today and is even encouraged. But sometimes it seriously complicates life, for whatever such person undertook, the result does not satisfy him, hatred to itself collects and makes the life miserable. Reconcile that not all and has to be not always faultless, you praise yourself for any work.
- Estimate the circle of contacts. Sometimes people around not in the best way influence our self-assessment. With those which constantly criticize you without the reason it is better to stop all contacts. To surround itself benevolent with the adjusted people – quite normal aspiration.
There are also those who do not know how to cease to hate life. Try even to see small pluses in negative situations, the harm without good does not happen. You learn to appreciate every moment life and all those habitual things which you, but which others are deprived have.
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