Shyness – normal line of any in the slightest degree the well-mannered person in any social groups, cultural and ethnic-national groups. At babies such line is absent – they are natural. That is, the shyness is formed as result of long impact of society on an individual, in process of his development. The human shyness for society is the, some kind of, social safety mechanism doing communication of subjects among themselves to safer. However everything is good moderately. The excessive shyness prevents people to live normally and naturally to feel, prevents to achieve goals, disorients.
To understand how to cease to hesitate, to redden and turn pale, be afraid to communicate and prove, it is necessary to establish the main reasons for excessive shyness, so to speak to understand on what the system is under construction what it consists of.
Reasons
Main reasons for shyness: incorrect ideas of, uncertainty and the underestimated self-assessment. Some people are not sure of themselves, it seems to them that they will not get along with any case or action. Persons who were too sponsored have such problems and criticized in the childhood.
How not to hesitate?
What should I do? For a start not to be discouraged and to be adjusted on a positive solution – it is important. Remember that the person is born free and has the right to be free, including, and from the imposed paternalistic stereotypes of behavior. Learn to praise yourself for any achievements. You learn to take a detached view of yourself. Try, study and control and analyze yourself. Whether you live in a condition of the conflict with yourself? Stop to be ashamed of yourself alone with yourself, for this purpose do not do something if you know that you will be ashamed then from the act. You learn to think independently, without influence of others opinions. If you have no opinion, so it is necessary to develop, for this purpose study yourself and the world around yourself.
Be not afraid to be mistaken, each person has the right for a mistake, it is its choice. Therefore always try that any your decision was conscious.
Many hesitate of the appearance.
How to cease to hesitate of the appearance?
God gives not all equally and not always that you want. However it is possible to work with any initial material towards improvement. Work on the taste, learn to put on, be engaged in a bearing, learn to go beautifully (and it is better – and to dance), you go regularly to the good hairdresser, you watch hygiene and appearance – all this gives to self-confidence. If it does not help with the necessary measure, address the expert, for example, to the psychologist. And still it is useful to work in drama studio.
How to cease to hesitate to speak?
To be sociable – it is good, but you should not too depend on a majority position, the identity of any person has to have a kernel. The system and the sequence of vital actions has to be built consciously around a certain value and ethical core which at everyone the what it has the right to. Each of us can express himself to that degree while it does not disturb others (at least, physically). Other question of what can be consequences.
You learn to be flexible, to put the same thought different into words. Do not lie too much if you lie – do it artistically and artly. Well, and among other things, lies (between lies and a lie the difference, lies is related to imaginations) has to be absolute and it is desirable disinterested.
Sometimes to tell constraint it is connected with unresolved logopedic problems. In this case remember that the speech of each person is unique and, perhaps, some features of your speech give it special charm.
Happens that to tell constraint results from inability to express the thought, such phenomenon is characteristic of people undeveloped, those who read a little, at school shirked humanitarian objects. If you realized yourself in such situation, work on itself is necessary to you difficult, but interesting. Make up for lost time, for the adults developing there are more compact materials for development, than school textbooks.
So leave without regret excessive shyness and begin to live full, normal, bright and happy life. The trifle is for this purpose necessary – to seek for harmonious development and to live in consent by.