Agree that in life there are many situations in which we feel that we do not need to change internally. In order that there were as little as possible such situations, it is necessary to work on it.
It is required to you
- Studying psychology
- Maintaining personal diary
- Work on
Instruction
1. Make the list and the description of those situations in which you feel that it is necessary for you on-to another to behave. Describe what feelings you have in each of these situations: alarm, fear, shame, etc. Look at situations in the list and try to answer a question that they have the general. Perhaps, at all these situations there are strangers, authority figures, etc.
2. Wonder what situation from the list the most undesirable to you and what, on the contrary, the simplest. Now you can describe a situation when, for example, you lack self-confidence as follows: "I feel certain emotions (what) if (condition)". Example: "I feel tensely when I have to address large audience of people". So, the accurate formulation of a problem is an important step.
3. Now, when clear under what circumstances it is necessary to feel differently, begin to work on it. Let's begin with the fact that self-assured people, as a rule, are not alarmed and also other similar feelings. It arises then when we are not confident in something. Then we also begin to ask questions: "What to do if I am not right? What to do if they laugh over me? What to do if I lose work?". Often one of these "if" involves all others and the set of questions which you answer with one answer is formed: "It will be awful". The major step is to find all these "if".
4. Answer your questions "What to Do if …". Only not in a fantastic, and real key. In life really can happen so that you do not know what to tell at a party. But the answer has to be such: "Nothing awful will occur, I can always ask other people that they think of something and to listen to other opinions". You have to understand that what you consider as something terrible, actually that is not.