For the woman to learn that the husband wants to divorce her – a hard blow. Even if it was impossible to call their marriage at all desire exemplary. What to speak about cases when it seems everything was as it should be: the normal relations, in the house prosperity, children grow on joy to parents. And suddenly: "I cannot live with you any more, I file for a divorce, I leave to another!" How to be to the woman in such situation? How to persuade the husband not to make this step?
Instruction
1. It is possible to understand your confusion, offense, even anger. But it is necessary to remember the wise truth: "Anger – the bad adviser!" The woman wishing to keep family should get it together and to work.
2. Do not resort to tears, reproaches, threats at all, do not abuse the last words of the husband and to a razluchniyets. And especially do not blackmail the husband: "Will you leave? Nevermore you will see children! I will not allow to meet them!"
3. You have to understand: the husband, even if considers himself absolutely right, all the same tests both fault, and confusion. He, marrying, undertook serious obligations to you and to your future children. Now he violated them. To pay off most in own eyes, he just and needs your tears, hysterics, threats. Like, obligations obligations, but how to live with this hysterical woman? No patience will be enough.
4. Instead ask it to speak frankly why he made such decision. And do not put it in position of the defendant at all! It is much better to ask a question as follows: "Please, explain what I did not so? What was mistaken in?" Benefit from this psychological course indisputable: the husband instinctively waits for reproaches, tears, insults, is ready "to snap", and you behave quietly, moreover – admit own guilt! Let and in the neutral, "veiled" form. He will be at least puzzled, confused, and it just what is necessary for you.
5. Children, of course, should be mentioned, but not as the tool of revenge to "the artful apostate" and meaning that they need the father! An argument "As to kids without father?!" it is very strong. On many men it for certain will work exactly as the wife wants.
6. Surely use also such argument: there is no guarantee that with other woman it will be better for it. Whether this couple to each other will manage to get used, to get used? And well, how the first passion will subside, and it will become clear that they do not suit one another at all that then? What to the husband will come back, having bashfully looked down? And you can understand and forgive, and here will understand and whether children – a big question will forgive! It is possible to refer to an example of heroes of the fine movie "Love and Pigeons".
7. In a word, there are less emotions, it is more than common sense and correct tactics! Then there is a good chance to keep the husband from a divorce.