Many families about what is children's jealousy, know firsthand. In order that the similar situation did not arise, mothers and fathers have to in advance, even during pregnancy, to think of how to avoid it.
Parents have to pay to the senior child as much as possible attention, spend with it much time, tell him tender words, prepare for appearance of the brother or sister. Emphasis needs to be placed on what the senior child still very much we love and it is expensive.
When the baby is born, mother constantly has to tell the senior child that when he was only born, parents with him spent also much time. Mother and the father whenever possible should not discharge the senior child of themselves, and, on the contrary, ask about the help, consult on him.
How the children's jealousy is shown?
The jealousy at different children is shown differently and with a different force. If the senior child had a jealousy, he can become reserved, cherishing the most various ideas in the head.
The senior child can begin to compare to whom more than what gets in the material or spiritual plan, in parental attention, love.
Most often the children's jealousy arises at children which did not reach five-year age. At this time they are still very dependent on the parents and cannot understand much.
At some people the feeling of children's jealousy remains for the rest of life therefore parents have to make everything to cope with jealousy of the child at children's age.
There is a small percent of children who are jealous the younger brother or the sister of parents. They want to look after the new family member, and mother and the father do not allow.
How to cope with jealousy?
If the risk of emergence of children's jealousy is possible, then parents have to look narrowly at behavior of the senior child in advance whether it changed. It is necessary to do not pass the moment when it is still possible to correct.
That the senior child did not begin to be jealous mother and the father of younger, parents have to talk more to him heart-to-heart, spend free time. If suddenly the child began to behave badly, it is not necessary to abuse him, to punish, compare to other children or to shame. Perhaps, the kid the behavior just decided to draw to himself the lost attention of parents.
It is impossible to compare children among themselves at all. If there was a fight or a quarrel, then mother or the father have to support weak, but not younger.
That children grew in peace, parents have to divide equally between them the time. For example, if mother walks with the younger brother, then the father has to devote time to the senior child.
If parents approach a problem of children's jealousy intelligently, then they will be able to resolve the arisen situation. If it is impossible to cope independently, then they can ask for the help experts.