The jealousy is a feeling which borders on feeling of property, on love. The feeling of jealousy arises at many, it is quite natural process when the man considers the beloved the companion and does not want to divide her attention with other male, parents, girlfriends, (especially male) colleagues, etc. But at some is a feeling in allowable limits, and at others reads off scale and to become the all-consuming idea provoking mad acts.
The jealousy of the man in love often is groundless and is based on guesses and the assumptions. If you saw that the beloved put on a beautiful dress evening walk with the girlfriend – already an occasion to be jealous if she was late on walk with a pet - it is practically crime, to make up lips for work as bright red lipstick – you regard as flirting with the chief.
Whether but unless so everything is actually? Your companion can come cheerful from work only because gave an award, and to be late at the girlfriend through your fault - means to your woman more pleasant to have a talk with a soulmate about trifles, than to consider your nape when you play computer games.
The pathological excessive jealousy at men pulls down idyll in family, prevents to build the safe relations. The jealousy is always followed by strict control, i.e. you begin to be interested where your darling went, why, how, etc. Such pathological jealousy every time puts your darling in an inconvenient situation. The wife every time begins to think – whether you should telling about the plans and actions, the jealousy attack can cause any act in you (even carrying out of garbage or a visit of shop) therefore the lie and half-words appears.
To avoid an attack of excessive jealousy which often is followed by scandal the woman begins to dodge and think out various situations and justifications, driving herself into a corner. And you, having noticed once a lie, you begin to tyrannize it even more, thereby destroying the last bases of happy family.
Signs of jealousy at men
There is a lot of signs of manifestation of the jealous relation, from a banal frown before manifestation of obvious aggression because of trifles. To see that you are jealous, the woman can at a meeting, on gloomy eyebrows instead of gentle embraces. Frequent reproaches to the wife in an occasion and without - too sign of feeling of jealousy. This feeling arises because of low self-confidence at the man if male worries that there is someone better it and it is more interesting, reproaches and cavils to the second half begin to pour. For example, if the woman went for swimming, her jealous husband will accuse of everything – she does not save the family budget, does not manage to warm up a dinner, did not sew up a shirt or itself strongly brightly put on, early left, late returned, etc. – all this signs of the wounded men's feeling of the owner.
Often against the background of emotional splash at men the nonsense of jealousy begins, slip ridiculous statements. Men, try to analyze everything that you tell in an emotional rush, and it is even better to write down on a dictophone and every other day in a quiet state to listen to it. For certain you will hear insults and silly charges – why put on this skirt why called the girlfriend at 22:00, etc.
How to cope with feeling of jealousy?
As a rule, the jealousy is an uncontrolled emotional rush therefore to cope with this feeling it is necessary to lower emotions in other direction. If you understand that you too strongly are jealous the wife, learn to struggle with emotions by means of respiratory gymnastics (to inhale deeply and to exhale slowly into 10 accounts).
One more way to lower feeling of jealousy is to learn to put to the place of the wife. Think - what is not enough for it why she so behaves, etc. Only when you will be able to experience behavior of the second half, your negative feelings – irritability, jealousy, fieriness will leave.