To become the father is not just to conceive the child, this intelligent and serious decision to accompany it throughout all life. And not the easiest decision which needs to be accepted independently, having carefully weighed and having thought over.
Instruction
1. To think properly. The unplanned child is not always only difficulties and troubles. To decide to become the father, it is necessary just to weigh all pros and cons of the fact of paternity. Think that the child – not only responsibility, but also great joy. Present at least for a couple of minutes how much good you will be able to make for the kid what to teach him to. Remember also what was made for you by your father. Even if you grew without him. He gave you life – and it already much. Think, you can become better, than he, to give to the child everything that will only be required.
2. To watch thematic video or the movie. Very often thoughts that nothing good from paternity will turn out do not allow to estimate the forthcoming picture completely. It is possible that thematic video about what to be a father great happiness, will help to appease alarm a little. It is not recommended to watch movies with the description of process of childbirth. It can frighten even more. And here the good melodrama or the comedy about fathers and children is necessary by the way. If filmstars cope with the problems, then you precisely everyone is ableeveryone is able. After all, the good movie will just lighten the mood. Namely under what corner you look at a situation depends on it.
3. To visit the psychologist. Become parents at different age. And not always pregnancy of the girl happens "in time". To cope with negative thoughts, to refuse cardinal measures (for example, abortion or parting with future mother), will be not superfluous to visit the experienced psychologist who will help to coordinate your behavior and thinking. It is not difficult to throw the pregnant woman, but unless you have guarantees that through any time you will not regret about the decision and do not want to return to the child? And by this moment can be late. Think of visiting the expert if you feel though the slightest doubts, having learned that you will become a father soon.
4. To talk to the father or the acquaintance who already became a father. There is nothing more simply, than to discuss this subject with the loved one who already passed through a similar situation. First, all your doubts and thoughts are familiar to them. And, so you will be able to get really valuable advice. Secondly, to you will calm down considerably. Understanding that there are those who support you and understand plays a large role. It will be simpler to you to reconcile with a thought that you are not lonely now that the child who will become your continuation, your heritage, your support will be born soon.