Full compatibility of the man and woman (psychological, sexual and partner) – pledge of the long, strong and successful relations. It is important that the compatibility has to be shown not only in some one sphere of life. For example, the sexual compatibility will not be of such great importance in several years any more after the beginning of the relations when to the forefront there is a compatibility psychological and partner.
Instruction
1. As a rule, at the first stage of development of the relations between the man and the woman the sexual inclination plays the defining role. Therefore the sexual compatibility of partners is defined most just after the first physical proximity. The compatibility in love, of course, is very important, without it achievement of emotional and intimate harmony is impossible. However she does not guarantee mutual understanding and successful overcoming joint vital difficulties yet. If because of misunderstanding you constantly are at war and your contentions cease only in a bed, try to define your compatibility at other levels of relationship.
2. Take the sheet of paper and divide it into two parts. In the left column list all traits of character of your partner which cause in you irritation, and in right – features which are pleasant to you. Determination of compatibility of characters is in what now you need to solve what characteristics your partner has more – which irritate you or which are pleasant to you. Think with what negative sides of character of the partner you are ready to be reconciled and with what is not present, at the same time consider that in the course of test your value judgment is important. For example, for most of people a reason for parting can hardly become the fact that your partner constantly forgets to close a tube with toothpaste. But presence of pathological greed at the partner – an occasion to think. Though if you at the same time prefer the austerity mode, this trait of character of the partner can turn for you into plus. It is especially good to carry out this test together with the partner, and then to compare results.
3. The main component of the successful relations between the man and the woman is the psychological compatibility. It is possible to determine it by the following method. Represent on paper a scale of your values in decreasing order, having put to the first point the most important for you in lives (families, money or career, etc.). Then list on paper of a duty of each of spouses and the social and political views. Ask the partner to make the same and compare results. The compatibility of the man and woman in this case is defined not by full coincidence on all points (that is improbable), and their similarity. For example, it is good when partners give a priority to lives to the same things. But if for one partner the main thing in life – career, and for another family, one may say, that it is already ready soil for disagreements. Also a reason for misunderstanding are different views on a duty of spouses, and sometimes even on social and political situation in the country.
4. An important role in successful relationship is played by partner compatibility - ability of the man and woman to keep the family budget, to interact effectively in the course of earning money and their use. On partner incompatibility can point, for example, different views to expenditure of money. To check partner compatibility in the matter, try to make the plan of the family budget, and then compare it to that which was made by your partner. Estimate rationality of alleged expenditure in the budget of the partner and compare them to the ideas of necessary expenses.