The personal hostility is the psychological process happening between individuals in groups of people, society on study, work. Its existence leads to the conflicts and quarrels. If to the person showed hostility, it prevents to study, to work, sleep and breaks the life mode in general. Therefore it is necessary to learn to notice and define in time whether other person shows to you personal hostility.
The first signs
The person begins to avoid communication, reduces it to the minimum volume. If he is near an object of the hostility, then feels nervousness and discomfort. It seems to other people that he revolts from a certain person.
Quite often personal hostility meets between colleagues. In this case it has the difficult mechanism. The personal hostility interferes with normal work of people as they cannot communicate with each other.
This psychological process brings discomfort not only to the person, but also his opponent. The personal hostility can appear even in those collectives which consist of honest, good and active people.
What it, personal hostility?
This psychological process is divided into several categories: 1. Asymmetric personal hostility when one person treats another badly, and that, in turn — it is good. 2. Mutual personal hostility when both persons know that they dislike each other. 3. Difficult personal hostility. One person takes offense at another, thinking that that experiences to him negative emotions. Actually both treat to each other kindly, but only one of them considers that another shows hostility.
How to distinguish?
Consciousness not always can distinguish at once personal hostility. Being under its action, the person is not capable to think objectively. The personal hostility is shown in such a way that judgments, statements and acts of the opponent are perceived by the person as hostile. In that case the usual smile can be distinguished as a sneer or a grin. The personal hostility is supported with communication on social networks and by e-mail. The usual greeting at the end of which the exclamation mark is put can be distinguished by the addressee feeling personal hostility as a claim. Therefore communication on different means of communication between such people should be excluded. These are difficult mechanisms of personal hostility, knowing which it is possible to distinguish it in time and to exclude. Thus, it will help to extinguish the conflict in collective.
Why there is a personal hostility?
One of the reasons of emergence of this mechanism of mentality are unexpressed claims. It was not pleasant to the person that the opponent made, but because of the shyness he did not tell him about it. The colleague arrived badly again. Again did not report about it to him. Thus, each time claims will only collect that will lead to emergence of personal hostility. Having heard from someone that someone spoke of it badly, the person becomes intense. In this case the wrong message of the story can lead to attuning of one person against another. Gossips will be fault to all. Insult can become the reason of personal hostility too. So, one person can not suspect that he something offended the opponent. The personal hostility can arise also because of unjustified illusions. It happens when one person considers another ideal. Once the ideal arrives badly. The person begins to think that the opponent gave himself not for the one whom is actually. The hostility is so formed. If one person does not keep the promise, then another does not understand the reasons of it, and at once considers it bad. It is the soil for emergence of personal hostility. If the person lays any hopes on the opponent, but he does not justify them, then it leads to emergence of personal hostility. The thing is that unexpressed claims collect, and it also leads to such state. The opponent can not be bad, just other person has to him too overestimated requirements. People can begin to compete to ambitions and difficult types of the personality with each other. On this soil the personal hostility can develop.